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loving someone with depression
| Wed, 11-18-2009 - 7:35pm |
I am married to someone with depression. We've been married 21 years and although I think he's always suffered from depression, we really didn't realize what it was til about 2 years ago. He's never been officially diagnosed and he won't see a dr. but we've read a few books and it fits. He'll be great for a while, then he goes down over the smallest things. We've had a rough year(family issues) and so it's affected him more. What I want to know is it the right thing to do to keep telling him I love him and just be there for him even if he won't get help. We have 2 kids, 15 & 13, so I don't want to go it alone. I know that deep down he loves us, but sometimes I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. He says no one understands and I try, but I guess I can't fully understand what he's going through. Some people think I should make him get help or do something drastic, but I don't want to give ultimatums. Am I wrong? Please help.

Depression takes a huge toll on the entire family.