Breakthrough today

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Breakthrough today
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 7:56pm

For quite some time now, I've avoided eating meals with my husband.  In the summer, I told myself it was that he wanted to eat really late because he was outside piddling around.  I have reflux really bad and don't eat late so that was a pretty good excuse.  Now that time has changed, I still don't want to eat with him and have come up with a variety of excuses. 


Last week, the therapist (first visit with this one) immediately picked up on some of my husband's issues and how they were effecting me.  My husband goes from one obsession to another and has out entire marriage.  Some have been potentially harmful to him (alcohol, nicotine, etc) and some have not (hunting, fishing, yardwork, etc).  His current obsession is exercise to the point of his being extremely underweight.  Yesterday in therapy, I mentioned to the therapist that I don't want to eat with him or do much of anything else for that matter with my husband.  It occurred to me that one of the main reasons that I don't want to eat with him is because meals are representative of his current's obsession.  At some point, I probably need to discuss this with my husband but not real sure when or how I will do this.  But for tonight, it will be PBJ on the couch again.


Wish me luck!!