Break through!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Break through!!
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Tue, 11-24-2009 - 3:18am

I think I've just had a huge break through. I think because my father was never available to me and still isn't i am always seeing men/jobs/friends that aren't available either and once any of these things start to go well and the people like me and I'm not chasing them anymore i subconsciously sabotage my own life. I'm looking back through every single argument I've had and it all fits. Even if a person has done absolutely nothing wrong to me i will assume something or start an argument over nothing to cause a huge fight.

Does anyone have any ideas on why I do this? Wouldn't i want people to be closer to make up for what my father has done? And what can i do to stop this from happening again! I want my friends and boyfriend back so badly but everyone hates me and thinks I'm such a bitch but really i care so much about them and never want to hurt them.

Please help!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2009
In reply to: staylour
Tue, 11-24-2009 - 5:59am

I don't think there is any way out of this except to tell them the truth.