helping my son through depres & drug use

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Registered: 08-08-2005
helping my son through depres & drug use
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Tue, 12-01-2009 - 10:43am
Hi, my ds age 20 has been going through alot ... he is into his third year collage...was rooming w/friends and had a gf in the same area..gf of approx 4 yrs.... he was doing ok w. school and i noticed grades dropping, just very moody, angry, tired.   beginning of Sept he experienced what we thought was the flu that lasted 3 weeks...he also fell asleep on his wrist which caused damage to his right ulnar radial nerve developing in a palsy...this will get better and has shown improvement.  we filed a medical w/d because he missed so much school w/the illness and now he could not write.  we brought him home "sick" i took him to 3 er's w/in 1 week's time to try and find him relieve .. he had sever back pain....finally i took him to a specialist..pain management and through xrays..it was determined that he had a mild form of scoliosis and also back spasams....the doc gave him percaset...he seemed to get better but still had back issues...this went on for about 1 1/2 months...one morning after going out w/friends he woke up sick w/fever and just escalated from there....sever back pain, hip pain..purfuse sweating...this was a drug sick..my son was withdrawling from the use of narcotics.  apparently the three week flu was him trying to w/draw...would be sick for three days, could not take it and got his fix...was good for a day...then w./drew another three days...etc...so now he was home and i stuck by him for 5 to 6 days of w/d symptoms...he suffered severely..long story longer, his gf and best friend apparently slept together while my son was sick and home...that created the break up..she disappeared during a drug intervention between her family , my son and friends of hers... he was trying to help her...thats when he found out about the cheating...he was devistated...he is doing out patient and doing better ... he is far from being out of the woods and he knows this...but the hurt is so real...he has a pain in his chest and stomach and continues to ask me when it will go away. :*(  it breaks my heart...he doesn't know why this happened to him...says he is not a bad person he feels like he is being punished...i told him she did not deserve him...he did go through the anger ... crying..calling her names,... wishing bad stuff on them...... He is not on a kick to keep busy...if i shouffle another deck of cards my hands will bleed lol..but that's ok... he won't sleep in his room...wants to be by my side all the time...  any ideas or experience???
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Registered: 11-30-2009
Tue, 12-01-2009 - 5:44pm

Cedar04,


I am so sorry to hear what your son is going through.

siggy waterfall
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Registered: 08-08-2005
Wed, 12-02-2009 - 9:47am
He does attend outpatient..last week he gave us a hard time about going...said he was not an addict because he was only into it for about 3 months...but he has been smoking pot since high school so i don't know if u need rehab for that or if he will quit that but i do know he hasn't smoked it since he detoxed at home. :) don't know if im fortunate or unfortunate...i think i'm fortunate that he tells me just about everything..otherwise i could not have helped him.