Therapy confusion

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Therapy confusion
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Fri, 12-18-2009 - 5:21am

Good morning all.   Just tossing this out for any comments and to try and see it in black and white to understand it myself.


OK, been in therapy over 7 years, have worked hard to find ways to manage my depression and anxiety.  Have joined a church, committees with that church, tried hobbies, made friends, kept up exercising and other things to help me snap out of the blues.


So here last night once again lately I hear from my therapist how certain things with childhood I am stuck, and the only way to really recover is to sit and feel the sadness, really grieve, vs. doing all the coping or distracting skills I have learned to do.


It is scary to think of welcoming the dark places, the sadness.  


And also confusing, and like I told her, no black/white rules or like when baking you set the timer and cookies are doine in 10 minutes, how do I know when enough blues is enough? 


Therapist says I will know by how I start to feel better as I go through this circle thing she showed me,  probably another Gestault thing.


I need to think and pray on this one.   And I see her again on tuesday as no way was I seeing her on Christmas Eve, although she is working that day.   So I will ask ?? and get more direction but just rather ironic that all my hard work to learn to cope, maybe my down fall that I am not continuing to get better.


thanks for listening, close to getting ready for work for me.   Josie.

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Registered: 08-06-2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 6:35am

Josie, I don't agree with your therapist.

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Registered: 11-30-2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 3:44pm

Josie,


I agree with Deb!

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 4:38am

Thanks Deb for taking the time to answer.


I need to pray and think more on all of it but I do know that until I realized I was as scared of my boss as I was of my father years ago, I couldn't function well at work at all.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 4:42am

Hi Heidi and thanks for reaching out too.


My past is effecting my present in my reactions to my Mom that is still alive and my 2 sisters.