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Tue, 01-05-2010 - 2:11pm

Hi, my name is Jaime.  I am 29 years old.  I have been in a common law relationship for just over 12 years, DH and I have an 8 yo son and a 4 yo daughter. 


This past year has been really hard on me.  I have been having a very difficult time keeping my temper in check.  I have never had a temper problem, I was always very easy going and any time I was in a confrontational situation I didn't shy away, but was able to talk my way through it without every being angry.  Now it seems that I just wake up angry in the morning for no apparent reason.  It seeps into every aspect of my life, and is now causing problems between my husband and I.  On top of that I feel like I am alienating my kids, I lose my patience with them quicker than I ever have before, and get upset over small unsubstantial things.  I feel like it's always boiling below the surface, just waiting for anything to allow it to erupt.  I hate it.  This is not me, and I don't like the person I am becoming.


Aside from this, my life has never been better.  I have  a great job that I love, we recently bought our first home (which I also love), we have awesome friends, our bills are paid and we have food in the cupboards, we don't lack for anything and I generally have nothing to worry about.  I just don't understand.


The only thing that I can think of that may be causing this is a hormonal change.  I haven't had a period in 14 months.  My doctor has sent me in for all kinds of testing, and basically it looks like I'm probably experiencing early onset of menopause (common in my family).  I have some other strange things that happen too, night sweats, I randomly get extremely overheated, I'm either really tired or really energetic.


Has anyone else experienced anything like this?  Can anyone give me some advice on how to deal with the non-stop anger?  I can't get in to see a counsellor for 20 weeks, but I need to deal with this now before I ruin my marriage.


TIA,


Jaime

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 5:02pm

Hormones can definitely wreak havoc on our emotions.

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Registered: 12-20-2009
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 5:22pm

Hi Jaime,

I agree with Amy... hormones may definitely be playing a big role in your issues. Do you exercise/workout regularly? I find myself "boiling under the surface" quite a bit and working out is a great way to blow off steam (or however you wanna put that - LOL) I think. =) Trying to "manage everything" on your own too is sometimes difficult. I try to be "supermom" to my three kids and pay all the bills and did all the work to build our new home, etc., so perhaps that's something you're doing as well? Just a couple things to think about I guess.

Mostly I was going to say check with your family doc or gynecologist and see if you can try a low dose of something to "tide you over" til you see the psych. My doc was fine with prescribing something as it took me three mo to get in to see mine as well (and then she changed me to a bit better meds).

Good luck!!

Stacey

When you do something for someone else, you create meaning in your own life as well as theirs. What you give you get to keep. What you fail to give you lose forever.

Stacey When you do something for someone else, you create meaning in your own life as well as theirs. What you give you get to keep. What you fail to give you lose forever.