Am I being unrealistic?

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Am I being unrealistic?
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 5:19pm

This is my first post to this particular board....


I've dealt with a few losses of late and have been prescribed medication for depression.  I've dealt with depression before, but now it's completely taken over me and I can't seem to scurry out of the black hole by myself....which is why I've gone to the doctor and he's put me on medication.


I'm trying to put a marriage back together that has been enstranged for 2 years (H and I don't live together, but we have been staying over each other's homes for the past few months as we work on things).  We have a son.


I have no sex drive....zero.  H and I have slept together about five times in the past five months.  He's very sexual and is very frustrated that I constantly reject him.  Other than the sex, we get a long fairly well most of the time.  There's no passion and it's because of me....I have no desire.


H tries to be sensitive and says he supports me and my health, yet we argue at least once a week over the sex issue.  Am I asking too much?  He's even threatened to get it from someone else if I don't have more sex with him (I don't think he'd really do it, but you never know).  I think that he thinks I'm just making excuses....he seems to have no clue as to how depression affects me.  I don't know if I should just stop complaining about my health to him and give in, or if he's being a complete insensitive as*.  Any suggestions?


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2009
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 5:26pm

Hi Mickey,


It sounds like you have a great husband (not including the part about the sex).

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Registered: 01-14-2010
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 9:54am
I hope that you and your husband are able to work this out. He sounds like a good guy, but he probably doesn't understand that the more pressure he puts on you the less you'll want to do it. Assuming that you've told him that, I would just try to stay focused on you at this time since you can't fix how he's feeling .