I haven't left my house in months, help?

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Registered: 01-12-2010
I haven't left my house in months, help?
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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:58am
I'm only 17, but I'm deeply depressed. I feel like I'll never be happy. I've been at home forever because I feel disgusting. When I look in the mirror, I see something that looks awful. I know it sounds like I'm vain, but I'm not. I've felt this way for 3 years. I had to stop going to public school, stop seeing my friends, hide when people came over. My family always tells me I'm being stupid and that I'm pretty, but I feel like they're lying. It seems so stupid to me, too, because life is short and I'm wasting my life. But I feel so utterly uncomfortable with myself. I wish I could go out and enjoy life, but I can't. Even if I was able to go out, I know I'd still feel depressed, because there's so many pointless horrible things going on in the world that it makes me sad. I can't stop worrying over people. No depression pills would help end this, for that is how I see things. I have nobody to talk to. Does anyone have any advice for me? Thanks for listening.
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Registered: 11-30-2009
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:43am

Welcome to the board, I am so glad you found us.

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Registered: 06-23-2008
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 6:04pm

Hello,


I'm sorry you are feeling unhappy.

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Registered: 12-20-2009
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 7:22pm

Hi,

What a great first step, posting to the board! {{hugs}}

I decided to respond because it sounds like you have a more severe version of what I suffered when I was your age. I had an eating disorder and thought I was "fat" at 108 pounds. I see now that I needed help so very badly, but no one understood. I am now 45 and SO wish I could turn back the hands of time to get the help I needed... Please, please, please consider getting counseling. I am very resistant to the idea of counseling, but I also know that it is necessary to realize when you need help. You aren't the only one who feels as you do and this alone might help ease some of your pain (I know it helped me immensely).

I also understand how you can feel so overwhelmed by the "problems of the world" - I have an 18 year old and I fear for her worrying like this, so we talked just recently about how none of us has the ability to "save the world," but there are small things we can do to contribute to making some of it better (it's taken me years to understand this, so this might be tough for you to "get" at your age). She and I decided to try to focus on something we really love - animals - and try to do SOMETHING to help with their rescue. Just something small so we feel like we're making our own little dent. =)

If you ever want to talk more, please don't hesitate to email me, k? stacey_boothe at yahoo.com

Stacey

When you do something for someone else, you create meaning in your own life as well as theirs. What you give you get to keep. What you fail to give you lose forever.

Stacey When you do something for someone else, you create meaning in your own life as well as theirs. What you give you get to keep. What you fail to give you lose forever.
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Registered: 11-28-2009
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:55pm

Hello,

It sounds like you might have body dysmorphic disorder or a type of anxiety disorder. Is it possible to see your family doctor? If that makes you nervous, do you have a trusted friend or family member that can go with you? I know you said you think antidepressants wouldn't work, but I really think you should ask a professional for a treatment plan. He/she might suggest a combination of medication and talk therapy.

I know how hard it is to ask for help. I've been depressed for years, and have only now worked up the courage to see about getting professional help. Please feel free to post here in the meantime.

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