Therapist is leaving
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| Wed, 01-20-2010 - 4:13pm |
I just came back from a great vacation. Today I saw my therapist and he told me that he will be leaving at the end of March and moving to a new job 4 hours away. He will no longer be in private practice. He said that between managed care (which doesn't pay him much; the negotiated rate is ridiculous) and fewer clients, he needs to make more money for his family. I know he has a 1-year-old so it's understandable. I'm not angry but I feel so sad. I've been seeing him for 2 and a half years and he has been superb. I've been in unsuccessful therapy in the past and it was such a relief that I finally found the right therapist.
I know this is something I will get past and it's not as bad a thing as others post about, but it really hurts. I have been teary all day. I thought I would have the rest of this year and plenty of time to detach. He did say that he is positive I will make it on my own, since I am very attuned to my emotions and I have learned a lot of tools. That doesn't really make me feel better. My closest friends love me but they don't understand. I talked to one today who thinks I never needed therapy in the first place, so I can't talk to her about this. I think the people on this board are the only ones who understand, perhaps also my older brother who has been in long-term therapy. I don't want another therapist so I will go on from here myself, but I have the option of seeing someone else in his group if I need to.
One thing I have learned is that without an attachment of some kind, therapy doesn't work well, so my sadness is inevitable; that doesn't make me feel better either.
Deb

(((Hug)))
OH dear Deb, I am so very sorry and I so totally understand.
Actually, we had been talking about termination for a while now, I just didn't know it would be so soon.
Thank you so much, Josie.