A relationship worth mending?
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| Sun, 02-07-2010 - 12:35pm |
He's the greatest man I've ever known. He's everything I could ever want in a husband or father for my (future) children. I am not physically attracted to him anymore. Could this be a symptom of depression? Could it be a residual effect from a decreased sex drive that is a symptom of depression? Is this a big enough problem to write off the chance at a relationship/marriage?
I codependantly ended the relationship because he "fixed" issues we had for years. I could no longer control the situation and subconsciously found that reason to end the relationship. With that resolved and headed in a healthy direction, and with both of us working toward setting healthier boundaries, is the lack of physical desire something that can be mended, or is it worth mending?

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Ok, my "opinion" I think you should give the guy a chance!
you say
He's the greatest man I've ever known. He's everything I could ever want in a husband or father for my (future) children.
That is A LOT to forgo for the sake of sex, I believe. Your childrens' happiness should come first, Dr.Laura would say. Once they're grown up and 18, you can find a sexy stud to be with. But he will never replace their father. Divorcing their father right now will always create issues for the rest of their lives, I don't are what anyone else says about it.
Forgive me again but over sex??
And yes, depression as many of us know CAN deplete every raw human emotion in us leaving us emotionless, numb and sexually indifferent.