name dilema need help...

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Registered: 05-31-2003
name dilema need help...
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Thu, 04-07-2005 - 5:05pm

I don't know where to post this on ivillage so I thought I would post here even though it's not about a baby name exactly. Here is the deal, my dh had a messy divorce from his ex (she cheated on him and married her lover) and they have a dd together. When I got pregnant with our dd the name I really liked was the name of his dd with his ex (I had liked it since I was a teen) so of course I couldn't use that name. The name I liked next turned out to be the nickname that his ex went by, think "Betty" and his ex's name was "Beatriz". So I chose another name with nickname I wanted the baby to go by and unfortunatley she went by that nickname too think something like "Isa" even though it didn't really go with her name. At first I thought my dh was just making it up, but I saw her email address for work and it has the second nickname on it as well so I know it's just my incredibly bad luck.

Thank goodness I finally found names for our two children that I like just as much and have nothing to do with the ex. Now the new dilema is that I have never liked my name. I am about to go back into the workforce and at my new job I would like to go by the nickname for my name. Mind you, no one has ever officially given me this nickname but I have always wanted to go by a cute nickname and feel I got ripped off because no one ever called me a cute nickname. My name is something like Samantha and I want to go by Sammi. You guessed it, the man the ex had the affair with name is Samual and he goes by Sammy. My dh says it will always remind him of his ex's dh. I have the type of name that only can have ONE nickname. I am feeling a little hostile now because I feel that I have conceded enough to the two jerks that unfortunatly happen to have so much in common with us. Should I tell my dh to suck it up or do I have to just accept I cannot use it and move on?

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Registered: 11-23-2004
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 7:19am
So is your name Samantha or "something like" it? If you would tell us your name.....we could probably think of some great NN that come from it.