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Registered: 04-24-2005
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Sun, 04-24-2005 - 10:15pm

I am new here, I used to post on some of the other boards (like living together, and military families) and am now at the age of having babies, so i decided to try out these boards. My DH and I have been married for almost 2 years. He is 10 years older than I, neither of us have biological children. I am currently in school (completing my first semester) and he has already completed school. We were going to wait til after I was out of school to have children, but I don't want to wait! I am trying to figure out how to broach the subject with him. He wants children, he just wants them planned, and for us to be well prepared. So, this is me!

Kim

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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: want2bmama2006
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 3:44pm

Hey! Some people plan on having children (which myself included) but as I've been told, MOST people don't PLAN to have children, they just do. Personally I thought you were SUPPOSED to plan. I think waiting until AFTER school is better because children ARE a HUGE responsibility, and you wouldn't have all the energy...BUT if you want to have some and your hubby is supportive, then go for it, but it will be hard work. Also, tell him how you feel and tell you that you feel that you can handle both..but ONLY if you're sure! :-) Hope this helped ya!

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Registered: 10-31-2004
In reply to: want2bmama2006
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:32am

Welcome Kim :)

***I am trying to figure out how to broach the subject with him. He wants children, he just wants them planned, and for us to be well prepared.

Easy. Just go up to your hubby when he's in a pleasant mood and tell him that you would like to talk to him about having children :) Open up, and tell him how you feel. Then allow him to voice his concerns and feelings. Communication is the key to all successful marriages.

As for planning children, my parents planned to have another child three years after my brother was born, but I came a year early hehehehe Your hubby *may* plan on having kids later, but God may choose to bless you now.

Good luck!
diane
:)