Off topic here...delivery rm question

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Off topic here...delivery rm question
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 12:33pm

I realize this is way off topic, but I was wondering about something. For the births of my first 2 sons, it was only DH and I in the delivery room. I feel he is all the support I need as he is a wonderful husband. This time, however, I was thinking of asking my Mom if she would want to be in the room with us. My sons are her only grandchildren (as of now, I have 2 siblings with no kids yet.) I was just htinking it may be nice for her to be in the room.

My only fear is that when Mom is around, I tend to cry lots easier--I think its a reaction still from childhood!!!!! ;)

So, what are others feelings on this. I have always found it to be a special moment between DH and I, but think it may be nice to let my Mom into the "circle"

Any thoughts? What did you do?

Theresa

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 3:00pm
I think you should let your mom in the room.
I had a c-section in Dec 04 with my daughter who was 6 weeks premature. Having my Mom in there was a blessing in disguise, as my husband was able to go off with our daughter and my mom was in there to tell me everything would be okay. It was nice to have her in there for the love and support I could feel from her.
I have 9 brothers and sisters, and many of us have had my mom in with us during births - she really appreciates us thinking of her and trusting her in sharing our babies special birth days!
Hope that helps!

 

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Registered: 09-23-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 3:32pm

My mom was with us for the labor and delivery of my first child. Unfortunately, she couldn't come to my daughter's birth because we were two thousand miles away, but we really enjoyed her presence at our son's birth. Because she's my mom I didn't feel inhibited at all by her presence, and she was a comfort for my husband when he was unsure about how things were progressing and whatnot. She had five of us naturally, without any drugs, so she was a help for me in attaining that goal. She was very discrete and was a big help in cleaning things up around the house so we didn't have to worry about that (not that we would've had the brain space to worry about it at the time anyway!). My one sister, who was in nursing school at the time, was actually also there and it was nice to have both of them attend the birth. For our second, it was just my husband and myself with the doctor and pediatric nurse, though.

If you don't feel she would be a distraction to you, I'd pose the offer and let her decide whether she's comfortable. Some moms aren't.

Hope it works out for you!

Kara

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Than

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 5:50pm
I think its a great idea! I plan on doing it when I give birth.
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Registered: 06-14-2003
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 6:44pm
I don't have a very close relationship w/ my Mom but she was w/ us when #1 was born. I didn't invite her - she just kind of stuck around while I was in labor & I didn't have the guts to tell her to leave! (That was 13 yrs ago & I've changed since then!) Anyway, I felt more self-conscious w/ her there & less comfortable. I wish she hadn't been there. But that's just my experience.