DH picked a name

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 2:11pm
DH has picked
Tyler Anne
I'm not sure though for a girl. I want an unusual name but everything I pick doesn't go with Anne or Marie (DH's Mother) And he firmily wants at least one of thoes in the name. I know Tyler is a boys name but I'm not sure if it would be right for girl any imput

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 3:27pm

I could be wrong, but I think if people were to hear or see Tyler, they would automatically think boy. Taylor is what I hear for girls, and Tyler for boys, at least in my area. I will be interested to read the other posts to see what they think. I am not saying you shouldn't do it, many names girls are taking over these days so I don't think it would be way "out there."

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 3:36pm

Well, traditionally, Tyler is definitely a boys name. However, I have known girls named Tyler, Kyle, Ryan, Michael, etc. And none of them were traumatized by it. In fact, all of them really liked their names. I've also had guy friends named Brooke, Ashley, Cary and Kelly who were very happy with their names. I love unisex and gender-bending names. I think some people are too worried about what belongs to girls and what belongs to boys.

I think Tyler Anne is really cute. Anyone who sees her full name will know that she is a girl. And yes she will probably have experiences where people hear only her first name and assume she is a boy, but imo that's not really the end of the world.

If you decide you really don't like the idea of using a boy's name, Taylor is a close alternative.

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 3:59pm
I think Tyler for a girl is a really nice name. I'm considering Rian for a little girl (a more feminine spelling of ryan) I think it would be cute to hypenate. For example: Tyler-Anne Marie or Tyler Anne-Marie. Well, Good luck:) Let me know what you think.
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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 7:45pm
I don't like it on a girl at all. Sorry.

                             
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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 8:41pm

If you aren't thrilled with Tyler then I wouldn't use it. I'll admit I'm not a big one for pushing the unisex envelope, and Tyler isn't my style even for boys.

I think just about every girl I grew up with had Marie or Ann/Anne for a middle name, so I'm surprised they don't sound good with your picks. Unless she'll be using both first and middle name daily, I wouldn't worry about the perfection of the sound. The first and last name flow is so much more important. It's nice to honor your MIL.

What have you picked for names?

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 9:16pm

i am all for the unusual uncommon names. i am due any day now, and have Kadence Skye picked out. as for tyler ann, i think its cute. it's your child, you name her, no one in the family really cares for the name dh and i have picked out, but, they have named their children, now they need to let us name ours. they'll get used to the name. As in the hyphenation, that would work too, but, how much of your MIL do you want in her name??? When people tell you its just wrong to name your children something different, who are they to tell you that you are an uneducated parent on naming your children. its fine to ask for their opinion and have them voice it, but to have them sit and think your an idiot, is something totally wrong.

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 10:12pm
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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 11:59pm

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This is an attitude that I just don't understand. Why is a girl "taking away" a boy's name by using it? Why is it that once a name becomes unisex it is somehow taboo for a boy? I hear versions of this all the time, frequently phrased as "girls are stealing all the good boy names".

I'm not trying to be rude, I just really don't understand and it really bothers me. Why does one gender have more of a right to a name than the other. I totally understand that some people have preferences and don't want a unisex name for their child (of either sex). But it bothers me that people who DO like unisex or gender-bending name are made to feel guilty for doing so.

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 6:44am
Hi Annie,
I just thought I'd chime in with my two cents and try to explain the "Don't steal all the boys names" mentality.
I can totally see where you are coming from - boys names are adorable on girls, and girls have been given boys names throughout history. But I think for the most part, history has shown that once a name gets more used for girls than for boys, it usually ends up disappearing for boys (I'm talking names like Lindsay and Ashley here, not Taylor or Tyler, which are both being used for both). I believe statistics would back me up on this.
Now, maybe it's a sad statement about our society that this is the case, but I think in general boys with "girls' names" have a harder time than girls with "boys' names" do. I know you said you've had male friends with unisex names that have liked their names and not had any problems, but I think they might not feel the same if they had names that were actually seen as definite girls' names. (Just imagine a little boy Ashley in today's world...).
For whatever reason, it doesn't seem to happen very often the other way around. Nobody seems to be wanting to name their sons Allison or Beverley, even though the sound of these names could be seen as perfectly masculine. Because our society still seems to have this stigma, it does seem to me that once a name becomes a girls' name (not just unisex, but definitely feminine), it stays that way.
So really, what it all boils down to for me is that there are more girls' names than boys' names to choose from in the first place, and yet names that gradually drift toward the girls' side, over time do tend to get stuck there. It really does make it harder to find a good definitely masculine name for a boy.
Having said all that (and if you've read this far, you deserve a medal!), boys' names on girls are still cute, and I totally understand why people love them!
Thanks for taking the time to read the ramblings of a crazy name traditionalist. Just thought since you were asking, that I'd take the time to explain what we're thinking :)
Jodi
PS Your dog is adorable, and so is his name!
PPS Cambriagirl - sorry for barging in on your thread. I think Tyler could be really cute for a girl, but if you're not sure about it, maybe you should both keep looking?
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:15pm

Thanks, you explained it perfectly. I guess we can blame it on society, but it is that way...once the name is used by more girls than boys, they get the name and the boys lose the name.


There are plenty of names for girls without taking a boys' name. I sort of like it, also, but at the same time, I wanted people to know if it was a male or female BY the name. (My daughter is Kaitlin-she's 15, and my son is Benjamin, he's 12) I heard a girl named Paxton the other day....it is my nephew's name AND it is definitely male. I guess I just wonder where it is going to end...


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