Big brother hates baby's name.

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Big brother hates baby's name.
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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 10:40am

Hi! My name is Tracie and I'm pregnant with my 3rd child. I have a 6 yr old, Ryan. A 1 yr old, Adam. And now, I'm expecting a girl. When I was pregnant with Adam, we said we would name the baby Sarah if he was a girl... My 6 yr old loved the name. Now that we ARE pregnant with a girl, I find the name Sarah beautiful, but overly popular. My dh and I want to name her Laura. The trouble is, our 6 yr old doesn't like the name. He's even talked to his teacher about it, saying he wishes we'd name her Sarah.

So ladies, what do you think? How important is it that we ALL agree with the name?

Thanks for your input!

Tracie

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 10:46am

Ryan can name his daughter Sarah when he grows up. My 5 year old nephew wanted to name his baby sister Ferder. Imagine if my sister and her husband decided to please him???? Your daughter's name is a decision between you and your husband. Ryan will love her and will love the name Laura too once she is here.

Love the name Laura, by the way!

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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 11:46am

I don't think it's important that your older children approve of your name choices at all. Ryan's opportunity to name a child will come in the future...and I'll bet he won't worry too much if you approve of his choices or not. :)

Laura is a beautiful name, btw. Good choice.


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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 12:24pm

I'm just really surprised that a 6-year-old boy would have an opinion about what to name a baby girl

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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 12:42pm

How important is it that your six-year-old loves the name? It's not. ;) It's important that you and your dh love the name.


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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 1:38pm

Previous posters are right -- your 6-year-old will have his turn to name a baby someday. This is your decision with your husband because it's your baby. Not to say that his feelings don't count at six years old, but imagine how many times our feelings change on names or whatever else even when we're older...he'll forget and soon love the name Laura.

Beautiful name, BTW!!!!

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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 2:38pm
You are talking about a 6 year old! He doesn't have major decision making capabilities at this point in his young life. This is his sister, not his own child. When he's all grown up and married and expecting his own daughter, he can pick her name. You and your husband conceived this baby girl, you should be the ones to name her. If my hubby and I left the name decision for baby girl number 3 (we also have two boys) to our children, she would be named Cinnamon, Coconut, Aqua or Tinkerbell. That's just not reasonable!
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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 4:17pm

I agree with the PPs that you should go with the name that you love best. However, when my brother was born I was almost 8 and my parents let me name him. They couldn't decide between a few names and I said how about David and they went with it. To this day I LOVE that I got to name my little brother. It was a great way for my parents to create a bond with us too since we are 8 years apart. I think that if Sarah is still a name that you love then maybe you should take your son's feelings into consideration. If you really don't like the name anymore and would hate using it then by all means don't! :)

KT

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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 4:22pm
Hi, i just wanted ot give little support. I had my con Feb 12th. We knew the name we were to use since day 1 of the pregnancy. Basically my DH has 3 kids from a previous marriage and he never once got to accept or reject a name. His ex never gave him the choice. Anyway, i let him choose the 1st name and was going to let him choose the middle name but he liked my choice better than his. So we named our son Remington Gauge.
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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 6:15pm

I definitely agree with pp who said it is your decision. Laura is a very pretty name, and it's your decision, not your son's. If you had a list of three favorites, but weren't 100% on any of them and so let your older child choose, that would be reasonable, but allowing him to veto the name you like doesn't make sense.

By the way, it sounds like you are pretty decided on Laura, and I know you aren't asking for "compromise names," but I wanted to mention that your post, for some reason, made me think of the name Sarai (Sarah's original name in the Bible), which I love. It would be a way to keep something of the feel of Sarah while avoiding the popularity issue. I wouldn't normally suggest a style change like this (Sarai with Ryan and Adam), but I've seen many families where the boys had fairly traditional names but the girls' names were a bit more unusual, so I thought I would pass on my thought.

Don't worry! When your little one is born, your son will forget he ever didn't like the name Laura.

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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 7:07pm

Since he is only 6, it isn't something I would worry about. He will get over it! Decision making should be up to the parents and only the parents.

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