My name game might be coming to an end..

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Registered: 07-19-2007
My name game might be coming to an end..
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 1:01am

So I've been on here many times, posted a few times, but I read everything. My husband and i were thinking about trying come after the holidays. I'm in school for Nursing but I just found out I have the oppurtunity to start in September with a very highly accredited school.

Sara
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Registered: 10-13-2006
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 4:26am

I'm sorry that you and your DH have decided to not TTC. But I think you are doing the right thing by wanting to wait so you can give your child a more stable life. While you wait I'd like to point you to the waiting to try board, I post there on occasion and it really does help, Having friends who are waiting just like you and they offer so much support.


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pswaiting


I'd also like to say that just because you are waiting, doesn't mean you have to give up the hunt for the perfect name! My fiance and I are not TTC but I still have an on going list and quite often come here to ask for opinions or advice. :-)


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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 12:08pm

I'm sorry to hear that you're sad, but it does sound like you are making the best choice for your future and your potential children's future. :) I think 30 is a great age to start trying, and there's nothing wrong with waiting until everything is in place as you'd like it.


By the way, I'm 32 and not a mom yet. I come here because I am fascinated with names, and it's fun to think about what I would choose when the time comes,

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 02-23-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 7:03pm

I know how you're feeling. DH and I had always planned to have kids 5 years after we got married (we were 23 when we got married) and by that time he would have been done with his doctoral program and I'd be established in my career.

Well, when I was 25 I decided to quit being a graphic designer and went back to school to be a teacher. It took me three years and I was JUST getting done with school when I was 28, and it wouldn't have been realistic for me to have a baby then, plus we were moving and not quite settled, etc.

It was really sad to have that age go by and feel like we weren't even close to having a baby. I REALLY wanted to have my first child before I was 30 but that just didn't happen for us. I am really glad I made the decision to go back to school though. I'm SO much happier in my job now and I know it was the right choice for me.

I'm 31 and 5 months pregnant now, it's happening 3 years later than I always imagined but I'm glad it happened this way, it also gave DH and I more time to spend together as a couple before we had kids. We took a big vacation to Jamaica this spring as our last child-free hurrah and just enjoyed being the two of us for seven years.

It's hard to watch time tick by without children but you'll get there one day. I know how you feel, now I feel pressure to have a second kid by the time I'm 35. But whatever happens, happens. Good luck to you!

Tracy

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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 2:42pm
Thank you for the encouragment.
Sara