Is this bad? DH cousin has same name....
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Is this bad? DH cousin has same name....
| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 10:02am |
So my dh has a cousin named Jacob. He lives out of state, and we maybe see him once a year. He has never lived in the same state as my dh, so they're not very close. Well, the problem is that sometimes people call him Jake....Not often, but sometimes. To be honest, I've only known him as Jacob, but of course some people shorten it for Jake. Well Jake is mine and dh's #1 name for our son due this October. Do you think it's weird/bad if we use Jake? I don't think so at all.....I mean, this cousin is a distant relationship...We never seem him!
What do you think? Thanks for your feedback! :)
Bethany
EDD 10/27/07 with Baby #1

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I'd say if it does not bother you dh (and it won't bother his grandparents) then go for it!
Good Luck!
That in mind, go for it, without a doubt!
Hope
I would use it. First - Jacob (usually nn Jake) is the #1 name in the country right now so it is not like you are naming your son after this cousin. There are a million Jacob/Jakes running around. It would maybe be different if cousins name was something more unusual then it would seem like you were naming your kid after him.
Second - a cousin to your husband whom you hardly ever see is not to me a close enough relationship to worry about it. If it was a cousin to the baby I would avoid it or if it was your DH brother or something then maybe too.
If you start looking at all the people you know with a given name and crossing those names off your list because of distant relationships you would end up with nothing!
So go with Jake if you want to!
I dont think it's awful... however i WOULD advise against using it for other reasons--
1) I find Jake very nicknamey. If you do it, I would do Jacob nn Jake to give him more options.
2) It is SO common. As you can see- you are ALREADY running into other Jake's and he isn't even born yet! Due to the crazy popularity, it has really made the name boring for me.
-Nikki
http://dreamasifyouwillliveforever.blogspot.com
I have to agree with everyone when it comes to the overall popularity.. it's the #1 name.
That said, I think it depends on the size of your family. If 1st cousins names were out, on my side of the family alone, we would be out 42 names. (10 on my dad's side, and yes, I have 32 first cousins on my mom's side (she's one of 9 kids)) So, there's bound to be some overlap now that we're all starting to have kids. That's different than if there are 6 cousins.
But at the end of the day, you'll look at the little guy and say hmm.. I think he's a Jacob. Or he's not! :)
Good luck!
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