Venting

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Mon, 09-28-2009 - 9:30am

I just found out that my nephew in California was circumcised. This is my DH's brother and his wife, and I hadn't wanted to ask (I had offered info to SIL, but she said she was leaving it up to my BIL since she doesn't have the same equipment :P). Anyway, DH was talking to BIL last night and the subject came up.

BIL said he did the research, and decided he didn't want the responsibility of keeping DN's penis clean. "Somebody" told him that he'd have to clean smegma off at every diaper change, and he didn't feel he was up for it.

He did research my butt! He heard something that supported what he wanted to do and went with it. I'm so tired of hearing these stories, people are so misinformed and don't want to be better informed, not even for the sake of their children!

I'm sorry if this is coming off as judgemental, but I offered information to them and they refused (as they did all other child-related information I've accumulated in my education and research). They've made it clear they believe they've got it all under control, and seem to think they know more about everything than anybody else. I love them 'cause they're family, but they drive me up a wall!

Thanks for letting me vent. Hope you all have a great day.

--Wendy




Edited 10/2/2009 9:22 am ET by wendy_tjsmama
--Wendy

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Registered: 04-13-2006
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 10:52am

Hey Wendy!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 12:33pm

"And what is it with women leaving the choice to their husbands because they have a penis?"

To say nothing of the fact that a man circumcised at birth knows less about the foreskin than the educated woman despite having "the same equipment"! Well, the "same equipment" minus a big part.

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Registered: 10-02-2007
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 6:21pm
Sounds like they had already made up their minds and used some lame (not to mention untrue) information to justify their wants. Sad.
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Registered: 09-23-2005
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 4:41am
Two of my sisters had sons in the last six months and both chose to circumcise. Made me sad for the boys.




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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 11:54am

“And what is it with women leaving the choice to their husbands because they have a penis?”


I think this is women trying to escape responsibility.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 12:19pm

That could be a very uncomfortable confrontation I’m glad I’ll never have to face.

I couldn't agree more! I have never regretted OUR decision (DH and I were both involved) to leave our twin boys intact. At first it was the understanding of what a cool bit of anatomy the foreskin is (having never seen on IRL before), but later it was strongly reinforced by the boys themselves. The first time they heard of circumcision, at age 8, they said "Ouch! Why would anyone want to do THAT?!" Since then they have become increasingly attached to their own foreskins (pun intended), and feel very strongly that it is a wrong thing to do. They are 15 now, and well on their way toward being intactivists. They were disgusted with my brother and SIL when they circumcised their baby boy 2 years ago.

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Sun, 10-04-2009 - 10:46am

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Registered: 05-18-2005
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 11:36am

Hate to say, but if you've been offering your research and viewpoints on child-rearing on a constant basis they may just be tuning you out and becoming resentful about being told how to parent.


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Registered: 05-02-2006
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 4:05pm

<<...it is highly probable that they will have to defend their action to a much more critical audience, their son.

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Registered: 05-02-2006
In reply to: wendy_tjsmama
Mon, 10-05-2009 - 4:23pm

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What would "telling him you tried to educate his parents" accomplish for the boy?

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