What are we doing here?
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|Fri, 01-29-2010 - 10:31am|
I have been wondering about this for some time. I will attempt to explain myself clearly and hopefully my exhausted brain won't stop me!
This issue is an incredibly emotive one. It's easy to get carried away in arguing against it, especially when there is personal experience with it.
However, does this actually do any good?
We don't seem to get a lot of pro-circ or even pro-parental choice people around here, and I know Christopher is doing as much as he can to encourage more people here. But when we do get someone, they don't stay long. They find themselves unable to argue against the anti-circ position and so leave. This may be seen as a victory here but is it really? It is my assertion that those people do not change their opinion one little bit. Instead they leave thinking of us as militant, attacking and unwilling to listen to reason. They learn nothing. The cause does not advance.
Let us remember what our true cause is. Those of us who are debating against circumcision are doing so (I hope!) in order to help future baby boys to not have to go through this. The only way to do this with the limited power that we have (none of us, I think, are lawmakers!) is through education. We need to spread the facts about what the foreskin is. We cannot force anyone to make a decision we agree with. Neither do we have the right to make them feel bad for their choice. What we can do is give them the facts in a way which allows them to hear it and absorb it. This requires holding back our judgement and just giving them information and support in their decision making. This is what we are here for.
This isn't supposed to come across as lecture, merely my thoughts on how we should be approaching this. There is no point in condemnation of doctors or parents who have baby boys circumcised. It does nothing but alienate them. It drives a gulf between us and that cannot lead to more knowledge or fewer babies being circumcised.