for future knowledge

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Registered: 01-21-2004
for future knowledge
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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 9:25pm
just for future knowledge.. the weekend before i stoped eating i miscarried due to being hit in the stomach by the babys father. i just wanted to post this here because of the fact i do not want people to think i am harming an innocent life anymore. while pregnant i ate and kept it down the best of my ability. it was after my boyfriend hit me that i lost the baby. i just wanted to post this so all would know i did my best to stop throwing up and to save an innocent life. if this seems snappy i am truely sorry i just wanted to let it out for future knowledge so i didnt cry everytime i read something in here

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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 2:08am
Awwww sweetie, I am soooo sorry to hear abuot the baby. I can't begin to understand how you feel but one thing I do know is that no one would ever think you were harming your baby. You tried hard and did all you could.

Please keep writing.

Lots of love

Lisa aka Ally xxx
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Registered: 10-13-2003
Fri, 01-30-2004 - 9:26am
I just wanted to let you know I am sorry that you lost your child. I do know what that is like, as I lost my daughter almost two years ago at 19.5 weeks. I hope that you may find the strength to leave someone who could treat you so poorly. That will be your first step to recovery. At one point I didn't think I deserved anything better, either, but that was ED talking. We all deserve a better life and I am proof it can be had. If I can get through anorexia by finding and developing other coping mechanisms, anyone can. You have to want it and believe you can do it. Again, sorry for the loss- you may want to check out one of the boards on parent's place for pregnancy loss. There are very supportive people there. Take care, Anjanette
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Registered: 12-12-2003
Fri, 01-30-2004 - 11:08am
I am sorry if I offended you in any way by what I said.. I guess I had the wrong impression. I had read earlier that you are pregnant now.. am I wrong? I thought you posted that and that is what I was implying about you needing to think about your baby. I never wanted you to think that I was tryingto tell you that you did harm an innosent life.. but If you are pergnant that by not eating thats what you are doing.

Sorry if there was a mix up

Sarah
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 01-30-2004 - 11:16am

I am so sorry you lost your baby. I have never been pregnant so I can't imagine what you are going through. All I know is that it must be very, very painful. I also imagine that ED is really acting up for you right now since that's how we deal with life. Please, please leave your bf - first and foremost. Nobody deserves to be hit, baby or not. I was in an abusive relationship and the best thing I ever did for myself is get out of it. Next I hope you will find a good support group, not only for ED, but for the loss of your baby. Recovery is possible, Sweetie, but the thing is nobody can do it for you. Make the first step, reach out for help, and don't do it alone. We are all here for you, but you need more than an online group.


Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Love & hugs, Kristina


The opinions I have expressed here are from my own experience and are not intended as medical advice or to take the place of your own physician's advice.

Love & hugs, Kristina

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Sun, 02-01-2004 - 3:55pm
hi

im sorry to hear about your situation, i dont know how you must be feeling but i hope youve dumped the babys father, tell him to **** off. well done on keeping down most of your food while you were pregnant; must have been tough. You must be strong to be able to do that, though ive never been pregnant, i dont know if i could do that. am very envious of your will power. maybe you could keep it going now? you have the determination, you just need the motivation; prove someone wrong, prove to yourself that you can do anything if you set yuor mind to it.

Dont know whether this helps you much, but ill help as often as i can, ill try to help, should i say.

stay srong, you are NOT alone, i thought i was until i came on here.

lauren x x
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Registered: 04-16-2003
Sat, 02-07-2004 - 2:37pm

Oh honey,


Please think of yourself and leave that man. My EX-husband (I'll call him "C") is my ex for that reason.


The hitting doesn't stop forever.... it gets worse.