Jealousy over friend's ED *trigger*

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Jealousy over friend's ED *trigger*
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:29am
One of my best friends and I have both struggled with anorexia for several years, and she's been a great source of compassion and support to me. She recently confided to me that she went to the doctor and he/she said that she's too thin and needs to gain weight. I am concerned for her health, but I am also extremely jealous. I admitted that I am jealous, and she assured me that I'm thinner than her, which I doubt, but it calmed me down all the same. She's one of the best friends I've ever had, though, and I don't want to be jealous of something like this. I don't think it's fair to ask her not to mention her doctor's appointments and weight issues with me because she's always ready to listen to mine, and as a friend, I should be there to listen to hers, too. She's a very sensitive, understanding person, so I'm sure that she would stop mentioning these things to me if I really wanted her to, but I honestly don't think it would be fair of me to do that. Is anyone in a similar situation and/or does anyone have any advice? Please help!

Stacy

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 1:54pm
well maybe you could suggest if she doesnt cum on this 1, she goes on another 1...maybe like you sed shes on this 1 already, or maybe shes on another 1 already...you know how much these boards help when your stressed/depressed etc...

hope you are both doing ok...

lauren x x x

ps. im not...just ate a whole pack of jaffa cakes so i came on here to stop myself sticking my head down the loo - my parents are out and my brother is upstairs watching tv...maybe i should stick my head down the loo, its just i havent done it in months and i already have a sore throat, but i hate the thought of all the food inside me!!! i feel like i should, but i think i shouldnt. i need 2, but i need not 2...its a dilemna...
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 11:24pm
Lauren,

I've struggled with bulimia as well as anorexia, and I always felt ashamed of being bulimic. For some reason, I felt proud of being anorexic, but I wanted to hide my bulimia and keep it a secret. Neither eating disorder is any fun, and I shouldn't have been proud of either one. I still struggle with anorexia sometimes, but I haven't made myself throw up since I started college about two years ago. I still want to sometimes, but I really try not to.

Stacy

P.S. - How old are you? I'm 20.

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