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my living sisuation
| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 11:07am |
Hi I'm getting real scared I haven't ate in days and I don't want to tell anyone. Because stuff comes down on me. I'm litering starving myself because of my living sisuation. I tried talking to my mom she does not want to hear it nowby does they start crying when I bring it up. that I have an eating disorder. I have no time for myself somebody is always here. I heard my daughters boyfriend talking to a friend about me and it was not good. I'm not doing a good job taking care of my kids right now my daughter is pregnaunt and only 17 that is feeding my eating disorder. I don't like her boyfriend I think he's a slob he won't do anything. How do I tell my daughter that she deserves better.

about how to talk to your daughter...well, i'm definitely not an expert there. i tried talking to my sister about her boyfriend several times, and each time we ended up arguing (once she even put me out of the car and left me in the rain...in winter...40 miles away from home!). eventually she figured it out on her own and dumped him. it just took almost 2 years. but it did eventually happen that she realized he wasn't the greatest thing ever.
it might be a good idea to talk to your daughter about what you overheard her boyfriend saying. you could tell her that if he talks badly about you, it makes you feel uncomfortable about his ability to treat her well. maybe don't be pushy, just hug her and tell her you love her.
I'm so sorry that you're going through such a hard time right now.
It's really too bad that your daughter is dealing with all this too. I hope you guys have a heart warming experience seeing the baby for the first time.
Does your daughter know how you feel about her boyfriend? We all want those we love to be with someone who will love them and treat them well, but we can't make their decisions for them. You can let your daughter know that you're concerned, but ultimately she makes this decision. And now there's a precious baby in the picture that makes it that much more complicated.
Hurting yourself over this isn't going to make the situation better, but I know that you know that. I'm praying that you take care of yourself, sweetie. That baby is going to need her grandma strong and healthy.
We're here for you whenever you need someone to talk to. (((HUGS)))
does thinking about the baby help at all? sometimes i think to myself "what will my nephew think of me? doesn't he need to see strong, healthy women as he grows up? i do want to be strong enough to chase him around and have fun with him. i want him to enjoy being in my house and spending time around me." sometimes that pulls me through a hard day. right now, maybe this doesn't work because the baby isn't actually *here,* but once the baby is born and wriggling around with it's own personality, i think you could find that the baby is a reason to eat and get better.
i wish i knew what to say! i want to encourage you to listen to your doctors and do what they ask of you, of course. i completely believe that the fastest way to feel less depressed and more hopeful when you are starving is to eat something. the difference in my moods today compared to the way i felt 5 months ago is pretty amazing to me. you will definitely feel less confused. this is frightening and difficult but you need food to live! your life is important. i like hearing from you here on the message boards and i want you to stick around. i want to know which sex is the baby :)
there are very good, fun, loving things in life that are too pleasant to miss out on. it's worth it to live.