Death of good friend's mother

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Death of good friend's mother
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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 10:13pm
I'm having a really bad night. I just read in the newspaper that the mother of one of my best friends from high school died. She was only 53, and I think that it was pretty sudden. I don't know what happened, like if there was an accident or what. To my knowledge, she wasn't sick. My friend probably would have mentioned it to me because we keep in pretty regular contact even though I'm in college now. She told me when her dad had a stroke, so I can't imagine why she wouldn't tell me if her mother was sick. She's a pretty open person. Anyway, I'm sorry that I am rambling. I'm just so upset. I really liked her mother. She was a great lady. I spent a lot of time at her house during middle school and high school. I'm going to the funeral tomorrow and I don't know how I am going to deal with it. Being there for my friend is the most important thing, but I just feel so unstable lately. I'm afraid that I'm going to cry or have a panic attack in front of everyone. Does anyone have any tips for coping for me?
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 11:34pm

Hey Stardoll,


I am sorry for your loss and I wish I could give you a big hug and go to the funeral with you. Wanting to be there for your friend is awesome, but please also take care of yourself. Can you take someone with you like your Mom or Dad to support you? I assume they knew your friend's Mom? Otherwise I am not sure what to suggest. Please do check in tomorrow though and let us know how you are doing.

Love & hugs, Kristina


The opinions I have expressed here are from my own experience and are not intended as medical advice or to take the place of your own physician's advice.

Love & hugs, Kristina

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 12:52am
I am soou sorry for your lose!! That is so terrible! I wish you well tomorrow. I am always here to talk! I also just emailed you also,so you should recieve that soon.

Love, Caitlin

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 9:50am
Thanks so much for your kindness and support. I wish that I could give you a big hug, too. I called my ex-boyfriend's parents, and his dad said that he heard that she had a massive heart attack. It sounds like it is a real shock to everyone. I'm definitely upset, but I'm going to focus totally on my friend because she must be absolutely devestated. I just feel horrible, and I wish that there was something I could do to help. I'm supposed to go shopping with my parents today, but I'm hoping that they will let me just stay home so that I can go to the first viewing with my ex-boyfriend. I just really want to go to the first one. I don't want my friend to think that I'm not thinking of her because I definitely am. Please wish me luck that my parents will either postpone the shopping trip or just pick up the stuff on my list for me and let me stay home to go to the first viewing with my ex-boyfriend. It's really important to me. Lots of love - thanks for being so wonderful to me.
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 9:52am
Thanks so much. You are a sweetheart! I replied to your e-mail. Your support and love definitely means a lot to me!