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Registered: 06-05-2004
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Thu, 09-02-2004 - 11:46pm
HI, sorry I havent been on for awhile, my comp. was broke. Anyways, so today my mom noticed the scale in her room was moved, and she asked if i move it, stupidly I said yes and she goes, why are you ALWAYS weighing yourself?? GREAT!! Now what do I say/ do!! There's noooo way I can even go a day without weighting myself!!!I know it's dumb, but sometimes I base wether I can eat or not on if i have gained any weight(i.e.If today I weight 132 instead of 130 I cant eat the ice cream I wanted) And im afraid that if i continue to she will eventually know something is up?? what do I do!!?? :(
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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: caitlin2o05
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 10:21am
You could just buy your own scale, but I would suggest trying to break away from weighing yourself every day. I know it's really hard. When I was at home, I wanted to weigh myself every day. I can't do it here at college because I don't have a scale. I'm thinking of buying one, but I keep telling myself that I don't really need a scale, and that I should save my money and spend it on something more worthwhile. To break away from weighing yourself every day, try doing it every other day or something. And go from there. I also know how hard it is to try to keep your parents from suspecting anything. My mom was always pretty dense about it, and actually seemed to enjoy it when I lost weight or seemed obsessed with weight and eating, but it was still hard to keep her from knowing how I felt about myself. Anyway, just wanted to give you some love and support. I hope that you are feeling better. We can try to break away from weighing ourselves so much together, if you want.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: caitlin2o05
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 10:30am
Hey caitlin2o05,

I know exactly what you're going through! I'm the same way about weighing myself. There have been days when I would weigh myself at least 10 times, and get so mad at myself if I had gained weight, which would make me restrict foods just as you do. Of course my parents weren't home to observe this, so they were none the wiser. Plus I have my own scale, which isn't necessarily a good thing, so I don't recommend that you go out and buy yourself one!!

Weighing myself so much, however, is something I'm trying to break free from. I don't want the scale to control how I feel everyday. I had had enough of it! So I put it away, and stayed far away from my parents room, where the other scale it, so I would't be tempted. I also have a full time job that keeps me out of the house for most of the day, as well.

So maybe you just need to do something to keep yourself occupied. Are you in school at all? Do you work? Try to find something to do that you enjoy and that will keep you away from the scale. I would also like to encourage you to talk to your mom, or someone else you're close to, and tell her/them how you feel. Chances are your mom doesn't know how you feel or understand it. i told my parents about my ED a little while ago and the still don't understand what I'm going through, but I know that they will be there for me no matter what.

Well I hope I've helped you in some way. Just remember that you are more than what your scale says. Don't let it control you. You deserve to be happy!

hugs and good luck!

stephanie

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Registered: 09-03-2004
In reply to: caitlin2o05
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 10:16pm
I'm sure you've heard it all before, but just for the heck of it here's a few reminders...

1. Normal weight fluxuations are just that -- normal. Everyone's weight varies slightly day to day depending on water weight and hormone changes. Normal weight fluxuation is +/-2 pounds your "given" weight (so if your given weight is 127, normal is anywhere from 125 to 129).

2. You have to eat 3500 calories to gain one pound of fat. That's in addition to the 2000 calories you should eat everyday for everything from cellular respiration to moving. If you haven't eaten 5500 calories since you steped on the scale last, it is impossible for you to have gained a pound of fat.

3. Real weight changes occur gradually. Most weight loss plans suggest weighing yourself once a week, so that you can see the trend instead of the daily fluxuations, therefore, weighing yourself 83746284 times a day on 3 differnt scales is pointless.

4. Muscle weighs more than fat -- (you can loose inches but gain pounds).

5. You are not a number. You are a human being, and a scale cannot measure your worth.

That being said, I know how comforting (or painful) that number on the scale can be. I used to weigh myself at least once a day when I woke up...and after I had gone to the bathroom...and after my shower...and before I ate...and after I ate...you get the picture. I would recommend staying away from the scale as much as possible. I eventually asked my mother to get rid of her scale, because it became such a temptation.

lots o' love,

meg