QOTW time (drum roll...)

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Registered: 09-06-2005
QOTW time (drum roll...)
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 1:36pm

This QOTW comes from something Poppy said in a recent post.  She seems to say so many things that make sense.


What are some ways you can think of for turning something negative about your day into something better, more positive?


 

 

 

~Diana~

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 8:27am

I'm going to have to come back to reply to this! :-)


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Registered: 04-27-2006
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:02am
I like this question a lot! I think that when something negative happens during my day, I try to talk to a friend about it. Sometimes others can help us see something positive in a negative experience that we might not otherwise think of ourselves. I find that sometimes a different perspective can be very helpful to me.
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Registered: 09-06-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:13pm

That's really good, perfectstar, I have a lot in common with this one friend, she's been through a lot of things I'm going through, i.e.

 

 

~Diana~

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Registered: 09-06-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:23pm

Let's see, how could I get a different perspective.


Breaking down tasks


Taking frequent breaks


Taking an honest

 

 

~Diana~

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 7:46am

Not taking myself seriously once in a while, especially if I am in a whiny mood, does the trick. Being self-deprecating and describing the situation with a humourous point of view takes a lot of the burden off my shoulders. A lot of my friends live abroad, so whether I like it or not, when I vent I have to write!


Volunteering is a win-win solution. Volunteering makes us feel good --> raises self-esteem --> good for self-confidence. It also allows us to reconnect with others who are also suffering, and a lot of times it puts our own situation into a healthy perspective. We're helping other people. We don't even have to volunteer in something that has to do with the disorder or illness that we suffer from. Volunteering at an animal shelter will also do one good.


I chose to talk about the sexual abuses, and hosting the boards that I CL on iVillage. It's a way of sharing my experience with other women, and it makes me feel that the abuses weren't just a random act of violence that put me in the wrong place at the wrong time. At least some good comes out of it.


Every step I've stumbled are steps from which I've learned a valuable lesson.

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Registered: 09-06-2005
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:00pm

Hi Poppy,


I really like what you

 

 

~Diana~

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:29am

It makes a huge difference knowing that one is not alone. I felt a lot less like a freak or a weakling or a loser, and more like a sane person who has and is going through a difficult time. Someone who has a future. It was good to be able to describe situations and be understood what I was trying to formulate. With others in real life (apart a handful of people) I'd always have to use 10.000 words to make sure that everyone understood yet knowing that they would only see - and understand - the tip of the iceberg.


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Registered: 09-06-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 3:45pm

Yep know what you mean.


 

 

~Diana~