HELP!!! Friend with anorexia

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Registered: 10-16-2006
HELP!!! Friend with anorexia
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 12:00am

In the midst of chaos of high school my friends and I have noticed one of our close friends has been losing weight rapidly over the past few months. She seems very insecure about her body image and is constantly talking about how "fat" she is and is always looking in mirrors for excessive amounts of time.

A perfect example of this...last weekend, my girlfriends and I were all over at my house, celebrating two birthdays. We were all trying on my clothes, and my friend found my homecoming dress from last year. She looked awesome in it, but kept complaning about how fat she looked in it.

My friend plays soccer and is very active. She is 5'7 and ONLY weighs 115 lbs. My friend has an athletic bulid and was muscular last year. Looking at her in my dress, I saw only her bones. At school, during lunch she will eat at MOST a bagel, and that is a very rare occasion. Her mom has spoken to my other friend's mothers and has said that she doesn't eat at home etiher. She will tell us that she had a huge breakfast and is not hungry at lunch. Then when she gets home, she tells her parents that she had a huge lunch and is not hugry for dinner. We all keep telling her to eat more and try to get her to eat bigger lunches. Everything we are trying is just not working.

People that do not know her very well are coming up to my friends and I and talking about how skinny she looks. One of us told her that she looked too skinny and she was almost happy about it. Big mistake, I don't think that we will say anything like that again.

I need help to figure out what the next step for me to take is. Do I sit her down and directly talk to her about it? (I honestly don't think that will work) Do I talk to all my friends and get them involved? (I don't want to do that either, I don't want to involve people that do not need to know about it) HELP!!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 11:22am
I think you need to talk to your friend's mom and express your concerns.


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Registered: 09-06-2005
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 3:02pm

Hi there and welcome to the board!


Your friend is lucky to have a group of friends that care about her.

 

 

~Diana~