We're gonna have a baby! Kind of freaked
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We're gonna have a baby! Kind of freaked
| Thu, 04-19-2007 - 2:45pm |
So, DH and I have done a LOT of talking about it, and we've decided to have another baby! I'm really so super excited, and I know DH is too (even though he's really nervous about the financial aspect of it all)!!! But, already I feel I'm having to fight a little tiny voice of panic. I know I'll be ok through the pregnancy, I'll eat healthy for my baby. I'll do everything I can to make sure I have a healthy baby, but I think part of me is freaking a bit already about AFTER the baby is born. DH and I were talking the other night about it all, and all of a sudden I had this quick thought of "omg I wonder what size I'll be after the baby". I quickly put it to rest, but that makes me concerned that I even had that thought. Because I know, who cares what size I'll be!!! I know all the good thoughts, I believe all the good thoughts, but I'm kind of worried that I even had the slightest moments of worry. So I dont know, I hope that it won't send me into a relapse. I've worked so long and hard to be where I'm at. Actually happy and liking myself! I suppose I'll have to watch myself a LOT after the baby is born. DH knows about my ED history, so I know he'll be supportive. I suppose I should make sure that he too pays extra attention to my eating habits, any negative comments I let slip out. I mean right now I'm really not that...I don't know, not worried I guess. But what does worry me is that I've even had the smallest of negative thoughts, that's what worries me. So I dont know, I suppose I'll have to check in here a lot more to make sure I'm on track still. Maybe I can find a support group for "recovered" women to help keep me on track through the whole process...anyone have any ideas on how to find one of those? So, that's where I'm at today. Super super happy about having another baby, totally and completely freaked that I had moments of worry about my weight after the baby...



Hi vivalamama!
First off, much congrats on the pending arrival of your little bundle! Please, enjoy it. It goes by sooo fast. My boys just turned one today and I am absolutely shocked on how fast time went.
I defiantely know what you are going through. When I first found out that I was pregnant, I got really worried. Because I was expecting twins, my doc had a really high "weight goal" compared to if I just had one. My OB also knew my ED history. He did his best to not dwell on the "weight goal" and tried to help me be more comfortable about it. But he also reminded me that weight gain is envitable with pregnancy and the weight gain is beneficial for the health of your baby. It's something I had to keep reminding myself. Eventually, it becomes second nature.
This is a time when you need to concentrate on making sure your baby has the
Thanks for your kind words! Oh I know it goes by too fast, DD will be 6 next month and I swear it was yesterday she was a baby!!! But I'm lucky because I'm a SAHM, so I've really gotten to enjoy every minute of it!
Well my doctor doesn't know about my ED, I switched docs (OBGYN) about 2 years ago and never mentioned it to him. At that time, and up until now really, the idea of another baby hasn't even been on the table. I have an appointment with my regular doctor though on Monday to ge the final approval (I have a linger other medical issue), then I'm making an appointment with my OB. So I'll let him know all about it then.
I really do think I'll enjoy every minute of the pregnancy, I had a very hard pregnancy with DD but even with that I've always missed the little things you know. When I first started showing, first ultrasound, first time she moved. And I did awesome I must say through the pregnancy, lol! So I know I'll be ok through it, but you're right. I'll just have to do my best to not worry about AFTER the pregnancy during it all. It just upset me that I even had any thoughts about it at all. Maybe if I just try really hard to stay focused on the wonderful blessing of it that I'll again get to experience, that will be enough to keep me on track. It just bothered me that I had a moment of worry. But you're right, if I just stay focused that should get me through. And if not, I know you guys will be here to help me! Well I had better get going, DD has an appointment in a bit so we need to get ready. Thanks again for your words!
CONGRADULATIONS! I'm so happy for you! Listen...my Mom is fourty and she has had two kids and she has the best body ever! I'm always jealous of her! You'll be great and it will be easy to lose the baby weight! If you did it once you can do it again! Again I'm so happy for you!
~Alex~
Congratulations on the decision to go for another kid!
~Diana~