ED is hurting my relationship with Dad
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ED is hurting my relationship with Dad
| Sat, 04-21-2007 - 7:44pm |
My dad is very overweight. He's eats horribly and is very sedendary. He sweats and is out of breath just by walking a little bit. I can't stand to be around him when he eats. He scarfs his fattening food down in seconds like a pig and it makes me want to puke. I just want to yell STOP EATING! I would do anything if he would lose weight because it discust me just to look at him. I know this is horrible. I am horrible. I don't know if this is ED that is making me think this or if it is just me. Feeling this way has really hurt my relationship with him. I don't like to be around him because he is always eating! When I look at him all I see is this huge double chin. I don't know how to stop feeling this way! Do any of yall experience this with people that you know? My Mamaw is much bigger than my dad and I don't feel this way about her because I NEVER see her eat bad. It's so weird.

Mamaw is just doing it in private.
Not only is it unhealthy, it's
~Diana~
No. Not at all. We constantly fight. He makes fun of me for going to church so much. I don't think he believes that I love God with all my heart. Just like everyone I'm a sinner and I'm certaintly not perfect. Every time I make a tiny slip up he says, well, if you really loved god and you were truely a christain you wouldn't do that. It's so umfair! I want to make him eat healthier but I know I can't control what he puts in his mouth. My Mom is a very healthly eater and she is very health concious. She exercises 5 times a week. She has a amasing body! I envy her sometimes. But she eats what she wants. If she really wants some chocolate she'll get some! But she doesn't binge on it. I just can't stand to watch my Dad get bigger and bigger and more umhealhtier with each passing day. I know if he got healthier he would feel so much better! I wish I could tell him that without offending him.
~Alex~
I'd like to remind people that eating disorders have many faces. The title of this message board is Eating Disorders: Anorexia and Bulimia, but overeating is a form of eating disorder as well. As a person who is actively recovering from an eating disorder (2 year anniversary in May!), it's important to recognize this and try to be empathetic. If your own issues with food or if his issues with food are keeping you from having a healthy relationship with your father, try to take food out of the equation.
Find an activity you can both participate in that does not involve food. Perhaps suggest taking a walk together (better for his health and does not involve eating) or something that would allow you to spend time together and that would help him start to exercise in a not so obvious manner. Recruit your Mom to help with ideas if this is something that truely concerns you. I'm sure she is probably just as worried as you.