Trying to accept myself

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Trying to accept myself
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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 11:23pm
I'm a little sad tonight. I really want to just accept my body the way that it is and stop trying to change it, but I seem to be having trouble doing that lately. I keep telling myself that I'm okay the way that I am, that I'm a worthwhile person at my current weight, and that I'd still be a worthwhile person even if I were heavier. I guess that I just have trouble believing that some days, even though I know it is true. I'm trying really hard to realize that size doesn't matter. If I'm healthy and doing all the things that I want to do, it doesn't matter if I'm not a certain size. I also know that recovery doesn't happen in a single day and that it's a process, but I still find myself getting frustrated. Can anyone relate?
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Registered: 02-12-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 9:23pm

Oh yes! I feel exactly the way you do! It is so hard for me to be happy with my body. There is always a girl out there with a better stomach than me or thinner thighs but I just have to remind myself that God loves me no matter how I look and that is all that counts. =) It does take a long time to recover. You have to take it a day at a time. But one day you will be able to say I am fully recovered. For me, I've slowly got more comfortable with my body over time. And it also took me a long time to realize that food will not make me fat. Just hang in there! I'll be praying for you!

~Alex~

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Registered: 12-13-2006
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 4:51pm

Hey perfectpony,


I've definately been in your place many, many, many times. The work of self-acceptance is so hard and tiring that you wonder if it will ever come true. My best advice is to look at yourself and accept the small things at first and then eventually you can move on to the bigger things. Taking the baby steps is sometimes the only way you can push past such thoughts. I have many hard days and sometimes the smallest things are the only ways I get myself through it.


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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 7:59pm
Thanks for the kind advice. I agree with you that accepting the small things first and then moving on to the bigger things is key. I just feel so ashamed of myself when I engage in my disordered behaviors with food. I feel so guilty afterwards. I think that I have trouble forgiving myself when I make mistakes. I know that I need to learn to forgive myself and move on.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 8:09pm
I compare myself to other girls a lot, too. I try to remind myself that I'm not other girls and that I don't have to try to look like someone else, but it's hard. This is something that I've struggled with a lot, and in fact, I'm still really struggling with it. Thanks for being so supportive. :-)