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| Sat, 05-05-2007 - 11:51pm |
Ahhhhhhhh! Family reunion tomorrow! Grrrrrr! I always get so nervous about family gatherings. I have NO CLUE what is in the food and I panic and ususally under-eat by a couple 100 calories. I am probally the only person who lost weight over Christmas break. I'm terrified of dessert. I'll have to go for a walk or something when everyone starts getting desert. Do any of yall have problems like this? Like, I do so well with recovery when I can eat what I want and I know exactly how many calories I'm eating. But if I don't know what I'm eating (expecially if it's homemade) I freak out! And then my relatives say, "try this dessert." "Oh Alex, it's so good you have to try it." I've had an aunt almost force a dessert down my throat! I'm just really scared so please pray for me. I hope this is something I can one day over come. I hope I can go to Christmas at my Gradmothers without thinking "How many calories am I eating". Have any of yall over come this?
~Alex~

Do you feel it's a loss of control issue, Alex?
~Diana~
I love music! I'm debating on whether 2 stay with piano or not though. My old teacher quit so I would have to get a new one. Plus It is very time comsuming. I've been so busy lately. But I am definately staying with the band. I love it! My boyfriend is in the band so that's a plus too. =) We get to travel to different places for competition and it's just really really fun! But about the family reunion...it went ok. I didn't freak out and no one pressured me to eat anything. (thank goodness) I just freak out if I don't know exactly what is in what I'm eating. I just don't want to eat to much and gain weight now that I am maintaining.
~alex~
Good job :)
~Diana~
Hey Alex,
I know this is quite a late reply to your 'family gathering' post - but I wanted to see how it all went. Did it turn out as scary as you thought it would be? Did you handle it okay?
I totally know what you mean about family gatherings though. Especially when the members dont really *know* what your struggling with - it just makes it that much harder because you dont want others to judge you, or something like that.
Im not the best example to follow when it comes to dealing with food outings and such, so I wont give you what I would *PERSONALLY* do because it might be triggering. But here is what I was taught :) Take small "sample" bites of a few things (the calories will hardly be anything). If you are craving for something sweet like a dessert, have a small bite of it first so you dont feel like you ar edepriving yourself all meal. What I was taught was, if you deprive yourself of the foods you love, you will only end up eating more of it when you get the chance, or eating MORE than what you wanted or thought because your body was thinking "oh man, that looks so goood! *drool*" so, go ahead and dont be afraid to "taste test"! :)
And with your Aunt telling you to try eating a dessert. Its okay to tell her no. Really, tell her, "Thanks, but I think Im going to wait till later... I need to let my food digest" Its okay to say no because otherwise you are just going to cause yourself more pain in the end. And thats the last thing you want for yourself. Try not to think about calories too much, we alwyas overestimate. I know its hard. Ive been through many of those experiences before. But I hope it went okay? *hugs*
Hi Alex!
I am so happy for u! and u totally did amazing :) that must have taken so much effort but hey, u totally did it! How do u feel about it today lookin back? did u *REALLY* gain like 5 pounds?! I bet u didnt, n seein that u can eat ice cream n look fantastic really is quite motivatin n such a relief
Im glad u didnt resort to throwin up or harmin urself durin any other way - that would not have been safe n i would be worried about u. You made the right choice! I wish i was as strong as u *sigh* its hard for me but im workin on kickin ED in the face ;)
hang in there. n yah I dont blame u about likin ice cream lol i love ice cream. I like cold stone! except its SUCH a trigger place it freaks me out at the same time. Whoever knew that food could be so contradictory :P we love it yet... we hate it at the same freakin time
take care*
Love it!
~Diana~