Very upset need help!

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Registered: 06-12-2007
Very upset need help!
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 6:54pm
I just watched a show that had a couple that was going to get married but the women had an eating disorder and her boyfriend was not willing to marry her unless she got better. She was eating better and had gained weight, but was having a day to day struggle still with her self image and negative thoughts. It was too much for him and he wasn not willing to be with her anymore unless she stopped. Now I'm freaked out. I've got those problems and I went on the Dr. Phil site to see what people had to say and it was all bad. They hate this girl for feeling the way she does and find it insulting and even one husband said that if he knew his wife had an eating disorder she never would ahve married her and another womens husband left her because of it. All I can think is this is going to be me. I'm having a very hard time right now I would have a brake down if I knew my boyfriend was going to leave me because of this. I've been crying sice I saw the show. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I need help. I feel like I'm broken and this make everything seem so much worse. I'm scared to go to councling becasue I'm very fraid of confrontation and very one I talk to about my problems seem to think it's all in my head and I'm making it out to be more than it is. I don't know what to do.
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 10:41pm

very gentle hugs to you (((((em87b)))))


I know several women that have eating disorders who are married and have adoring husbands.

 

 

~Diana~

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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:32pm

Hi again (((em87b)))


I just read the transcript from today's show.

 

 

~Diana~

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:52am
Thank you for replying. Last night I talk with my Mom and Aunt. It was very helpful. I was on meds. about a year ago. My mom suggested that I go back to my doctor; the earliest I can get in is next Tuesday. I'm not too happy about that, but there's not much I can do. After I talk to my doctor I have to find a councilor. Will anyone do or should I ask for one that works with specific problems.
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 4:00pm

It is wonderful to hear that you were able to talk to your mother and aunt.


It would be

 

 

~Diana~

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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 9:44am
It was so hard for me to tell my BF at the time that I was struggling with a deep dark secret. I was so scared because I knew if I told him, it would mean that I had to start healing. I thought he would force me to eat and be disgusted and not understand my disease. BUT....he went to EVERY doctor's appointment with me. He was there when I told my parents. He saved my life. The past 3 years have NOT BEEN EASY, but he has stood by me through it all. Now I am proud to have a husband that loves me and understands me more than anyone ever could.
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 10:47am
My biyfriend is the most supportive perosn ever. If I didn't have him I wouldn't have a reasin to get better. He's the only one that notices any changes and always askes me how I'm doing. Last night he told me I needed to find a mean counclor that wouldn't give in, and be too nice to me. One that would make me stick with it thsi time.
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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 3:24pm

Hi there (((((lovetheburn))))) and a warm welcome to

 

 

~Diana~

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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 10:54am
thanks! i've had a rough past few weeks. my husband and i have been living with inlaws until we move into our house. its hard to not be in my safe place and fix what i want to eat. its been really tough, especially not being able to work out when i want to. i am just hoping to get through it.
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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 4:08pm

I read "living with inlaws" and my jaw dropped.

 

 

~Diana~