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| Tue, 06-19-2007 - 1:55am |
Hi. I just recently found out that my soon-to-be sister in law that I have know for about 5 years is bulimic. She and my brother in law just visit us from out of state for 7 days and she is down to about 100 pounds, a loss of about 30 pounds in 5 months. She is eating large amounts of food and then disapearing into the bathroom. My brother in law thought he caught her about a month ago, but she said she was just spitting and didn't feel well. She has all kinds of excuses. The whole time she was hear she seems fine, not depressed or anything and spent a lot of time with my 2-year old. She was great with her. She took my daughter to the bathroom with her a few times so that conviced me that she was not purging.
The last night they were here we were on our way to the airport and stopped for dinner with our other friends as well. She ate a burrito and three peices of pizza. She took my daughter to the bathroom, and i decided since it was a long ride to the airport that I should go to. When I went into the bathroom all the stalls were full and I heard my daughter jabbering as usual, when I looked I could see my sister in law through the crack and she was definietly purging, in front of my daughter!!! I didn't know what to do, I was angry but also really sad for her. I can't believe she would do that with my daughter and it made me realize that she must be pretty sick.
I told my husband and we let it go for the night. Today my husband called his brother and told him. He said he was pretty sure he already knew and just didn't know what to do about it. He said he read on line that being confrontation can make things worst. He is scared and confused. My husband told him to make a counseling appointment for the two of them and lay it on the line and hope she shows up. He thinks it might be helpful if I call her if it doesn't work with him. I am willing to do that, and I think she really looks up to me and my family, but I am sad and confused too.
I don't want to push her away, by the way the whole family knows and that could be very scary for her.
Any advice on how to confront in an understanding and supportive way. Obviously, she is not welcome to be alone with my daughter until she is being honest and getting help. But I dont' want to threaten her.
Thanks!
AJS

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