Donor is MIA

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Donor is MIA
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Sun, 11-29-2009 - 3:44pm

Well I got a call today I was totally not expecting, and I am totally freaking out. The donor was supposed to go in Fri. morning and she didn't come in, and she called and said she was stuck in a snowstorm in PA. So she was supposed to go in Sat instead, and she never showed, and didn't call. They have left her 3 messages over the course of the weekend and haven't heard from her. We are literally days away from ER. At this point we don't know if she's still taking her meds, if she's okay, if she's on board, but it's not looking good. We actually checked and there were no reports of snow in PA this week, so....

The nurse said she would call me tomorrow after the cycling hours and let me know if she shows or if they hear from her. I am just so sad, angry, and shocked- I can't believe this happened again. That's donor number three and three strikes and you're out. So needless to say if this doesn't happen we're done with this clinic, and maybe done with DE for the time being.

We decided that if this doesn't happen we are going to start over at another clinic, and see if they feel like it's worth trying again with my eggs. The money we would have spent on DE is almost 2 IVF cycles, and maybe another clinc/lab will have better luck getting us viable embryos. I'm trying to see this as a blessing in disguise, or at least as a sign that this is not the right direction for us. Anyway, please just send some prayers that this works out one way or another.

 


Amber



Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.

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Registered: 10-31-2008
In reply to: adav75
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 1:48pm

Hi Amber,


Even though I replied on the other board, I wanted to extend my hopes and prayers to you that this works out in your favor.

~Christine~


TTC since 6/2007. 
IVF #1 Jan 2009 - BFN
IVF# 2  April 2009 - BFN
IVF# 3 July

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Registered: 07-25-2007
In reply to: adav75
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 2:52pm
Hi Amber, i replied on the other board too...I just cannot believe this!! I really hope she contacts the clinic today...you DON'T deserve this!

~Kate

TTC May, 2007Initial Diagnosis: MFI4 IUI's w/ Clomid- all BFNIVF #1 June- Lupron protocol. 9 eggs, 6 mature, 4 fertilized, 3 day transfer, 1 x 7 cell grade A= BFNDiagnosis: bad eggsIVF #2 September- Antagon protocol. 6 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized, 3 day transfer, 2 x 8 cell perfect embies, 1 x 5 cell slow-poke.Result: POSITIVE beta on 10/6- 43.7Beta #2 on 10/8: 139, Beta # 3 on 10/10: 382u/s #1 on 10/17: 1 sac measuring 5w3dM/C on 10/24Next up: seeking 2nd opinion of doc who specializes in diagnosis and m/c. Diagnosis: Low ovarian reserve and problem w/ Sperm DNA (DFI)DH on high doses of Antioxidants to help w/ DFI. Results went from 30.7% down to 17.2%! YIPPEEE!!IVF #3 February, 2009- Retrieval 2/22/09-5 eggs2/23/09- Fert report. Only 1 mature egg out of the 5. It did fertilize normally2/25/09- ET- Transfered one perfect 8 cell embie. STICK BABY STICK!!3/7/09- AF Arrived. BFNMay, 2009- IVF #45/14/09- Retrieval of 16 eggs, 9 mature, 7 fertilized5/17/09- Transfer of 4 embies- one 8 cell grade A, one 7 cell grade A, two 6 cell grade B5/29/09- BFP! HCG: 121. 6/1/09 HCG: 407. 6/3/09: HCG 984. 6/5/09: HCG 20536/8/09- early u/s showing gestational sac- no yolk. HCG only rose to 3,698. Not a good sign6/10/09- more u/s and bw6/16/09- no yolk sac- m/c D&CNEXT UP: DE w/ my sister as the donor. Lupron to begin on 8/25/09. Stims started on 9/7/0910/2/09- DE IVF cycle #1- BFNMoving on to anonymous DE and HOPEFULLY cycling in December

~Kate


6-time IVF Survivor


2 m/c's


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