I am really upset; donor embryo info

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I am really upset; donor embryo info
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Sat, 05-01-2010 - 12:30pm

Hi ladies,

After much consideration about funding, my awesome DH and I decided to move forward to donor embryo. We have come to terms with the bio thing, we really just know in our hearts we want a family.

So I have been researching this all morning and I find 3 clinics that have programs, and they say they won't let you in if you are over 45. I turn 46 in November, but I don't look it, feel it, or act it. My DH is 30. I am totally devastated... why would there be discrimination when I can march in and do a donor egg program upwards close to 50? Have you heard of anyone my age being successful in finding an embryo?

I also read a post that a couple had posted on miracles waiting and received no responses because the wife was in her 40s.

I really am shocked and saddened. I thought we found the 'answer'. Of course I would rather go with donor egg but it is just not financially viable for us at this time. My heart is aching.








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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 1:20pm

Given the time factor, I'm with you ... try w/ Doc A and fallback to Doc B if you need to.

 


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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 1:23pm

I agree with Spencer!


good luck!


Gabrielle

Franklin and Callan

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 1:50pm
I'd say go for it with Doc A!

~Christine~


TTC since 6/2007. 
IVF #1 Jan 2009 - BFN
IVF# 2  April 2009 - BFN
IVF# 3 July

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Registered: 07-15-2005
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 1:58pm

I agree with you, Spencer, Gabrielle and Christine. If you have to wait and go to Doc B, it will give you time to find the money, shoudl it not (but it will) work out with A.

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 2:25pm

Hi:

-goteggs

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Registered: 05-28-2008
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 4:20pm

Thanks for that link.



 BabyFruit Ticker

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 8:28pm
I'm aiding with the rest of the ladies.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Registered: 05-28-2008
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 5:44pm

Well ladies, I found out that Doc A's success isn't just average, it is below average (way below) and not even worth the 'roll the dice' approach I was planning on.



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Registered: 06-20-2009
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 8:49pm

Dear Mattie,


I am not sure where you live but just wanted to let you know that I will be 46 in September and I just gave birth to Boy/Girl Twins through Donor Egg.

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Registered: 05-28-2008
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 12:33pm

Thanks so much Joanie.


Yes, DE does not seem to have any age restrictions, yet strangely, I found age limits with most D-emb programs.



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