Just starting DE journey

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Registered: 10-29-2008
Just starting DE journey
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 1:14pm

After 3 years & 6 unsuccessful IUI's, one ectopic pregnancy and countless adoption meetings, my husband and I have made the decision to try donor eggs through the Shady Grove shared risk program. I am 39, and other than my ovarian reserve, have had good test results, so we are hopeful. Though, as I am sure you all know I am very very cautiously hopeful.
I should finish up all my pre-testing this week, and hopeful that we can select our donor as early as next week. I've already seen one that is my ethnic make-up and build, so that is a nice surprise.
I wanted to ask people who have used this program two questions.
What was the wait between when you selected your donor and the transfer? My fear is that I select a donor, and have to wait and wait and wait until a second woman chooses her.

Did anyone use the financing program, Fertility Finance, I was curious about rates and general terms. We have the cash to pay the $29K, but are considering financing 1/3 of it in order to keep a little bit more in our rainy day fund.

Thanks ahead for your support- glad I found this board, I am sure to be back

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:30pm



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Registered: 02-04-2008
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 9:40am


I didn't use SG but I just wanted to welcome you and wish you luck! :)

It can be a long road but the end result is so worth it! Hang in there and if you have ANY questions or concerns, this is the place to come. Most of us have been through it all.



Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.
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Registered: 03-17-2008
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 1:31pm


I also used SG's shared risk cycle and did one fresh and frozen oocyte (just like Spencer).

For my fresh cycle, I was recipient 2 of 3. I waited about 25 days before the other woman signed up. that was in June, I cycled mid-August. I had a BFP but m/c at 8 weeks.

I was going to do a second fresh cycle but after waiting 6 weeks with no other recipient, I went with a frozen DE that wasn't available when I chose the second fresh donor.

For my frozen cycle, It took about 6 weeks after selecting the donor to

Franklin and Callan

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Registered: 10-31-2008
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 1:46pm

Hi Susan,

I just went through SG as well for a successful fresh DE cycle.


TTC since 6/2007. 
IVF #1 Jan 2009 - BFN
IVF# 2  April 2009 - BFN
IVF# 3 July

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Registered: 10-29-2008
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 11:47am
Thanks everyone - I have my mock embryo transfer tomorrow. hopeful it goes well and we will get approved asap. Still not sure what to do about the money - we don't belong to a credit union - and I doubt our bank - BofA - will give us satisfactory rates.
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Registered: 11-29-2005
Thu, 05-06-2010 - 12:04pm

Good luck!

Most everyone is eligible to join a credit union *somewhere*, either b/c of where they work or where they live ... for instance, all CT residents can join Nutmeg State CU, and when I worked at a particular hospital I could join HFCU, and now that DH works for a particular company we are eligible for a different CU (the one we ultimately chose).

Credit unions often have better deals than banks, especially the big national banks.


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 12:40pm

Hi and Welcome !

We did the SG 1:3 29K program also. We took out a home equity line of credit on our house then used our American Express for the payment so we could get points. Then we paid off the AMEX w/ the loan. Over the 4 year journey, we used our AMEX for everything---it was paid off monthly---and when our baby was born, we used the points to get a great Canon video camera to record the event. It was the best way to make use of our $$ and the interest on a home equity line of credit is tax deductable

Also, do NOT forget that that 29K is tax deductable under medical expenses---in addition to all meds, mileage, hotels, some meals, plus any medical procedures like HSG, u/s, etc. That gave us back a HUGE chunk of change when tax season rolled around !!!

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Registered: 05-23-2010
Tue, 06-01-2010 - 8:41pm

Mine went very quickly after I picked the donor. I know the process seems like it takes forever but the hard part is picking the donor. Once that is done, it goes quickly. Good luck!!