I'm at my wits end!
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| Thu, 05-04-2006 - 1:25pm |
ugh! I can't take this anymore.
My boyfriend's dad was diagnosed with colon cancer back in early March. He was in the hospital for just over two weeks. He was originally put in because they thought it was just an intestinal blockage. When they went in they saw it was probably a tumor and it was too large to remove. His colon had ruptured and the feces went into his stomach infecting it.
So a few days later they did a biopsy and fund the tumor to be cancerous.
We've been having a very hard time getting him to eat anything. He was okay for a while, but has quickly gone downhill. He'll get cravings for things and we'll buy it for him and then he'll never eat it because he didn't feel well. They told him he needs to eat 5 small meals a day. In reality he would have half an ensure and a doctor pepper. Maybe some jello.
But now for the last week has has had a very hard time keeping anything down including water. He says it makes him feel better to throw up. Ugh! yesterday he met up with the oncological surgeon for the first time. They saw how dehydrated he was and gave him some Boost which he refused to drink. When they were done with him, I was asking about getting him down to emergency because he won't eat. the doctor (oncoligical)there didn't seem alarmed because his potassium levels looked fine. But I don't see how that's going to suddenly get him to eat. He's dehydrated. So she sent him home. the surgeon doctor gave him a prescription for something to give him an appetite. He didn't ake any last night. He didn't drink anything. We tried again to get him to an emergency room this morning but he wants to give it another day to see if he can get anything down today.
I told my boyfriend to call him all day long and hound him and that if he can't keep anything down today we are taking him TONIGHT!!!!!
He's 5'11. He was always thin and used to weigh around 150 pounds. Now he is an alarming 98 pounds. I can't understand why the doctors weren't more alarmed yesterday?
Someone needs to figure out why he can't keep anything down. They did take some x-rays and they said there is air in there which could be the beginning of a blockage.
I just don't get why his dad wants to wait around and not do anything. For him to be stable for the surgery he needs and chemo he needs to gain weight. Instead it seems like he just wants to wither away. How do I knock sense into him?

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We're trying to get him an appointment today with the doctor. If she won't see him, then
Judy
cl-ivhjude
We weren't able to get him to the doctor, she won't see him until Tuesday. And he refused to go to the Emergency Room.
He sounds so awful and congested. But he doesn't seem to have a fever. We're getting him a home health aid who will start coming by on Monday. That will be such a big help. She'll even be able to take him to his doctor appointments when we're unable to take off work.
We're attempting to take a 1 night getaway tomorrow. Hopefully his dad will be okay. We're both so stressed out, we really need it.
I'm so glad to hear you have a health aide coming in and that you two are trying for an overnight getaway, both of these things are wonderful.
I continue to be amazed at how difficult it is to get in to see the doctor under these circumstances.
Judy
cl-ivhjude
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