Am I in denial?
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Am I in denial?
| Tue, 05-09-2006 - 5:50pm |
I am not sure what I should be feeling or saying about my mom and her terminal cancer. She seems to be getting worse everyday. We are extreemly close although whenever she talks to me about her aches and pains or worse when she says she feels like her body is giving up I always ignore her! or change the subject. I feel like an awful daughter, am I normal?


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Judy,
My mom comes home today from her vacation. I talked to her yesterday morning and she sounded so happy. My mom is a jokester, so she was cracking jokes. She said she put $20 down on the Chicago Bears to win the superbowl for my fiance. I thought that was thoughtful. I am excited to see her, I plan on picking her up tonite she is going to spend the night at my house (hopefully, she may decline because she is exausted!)
I'll let you know.
Melissa
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Melissa I am so glad your mom is having a ball doing what she wants to do.
Judy
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i'm kinda sad because she declined coming over today. She still hasn't made it home yet, she is at a friends house until tonite trying to feel better. The vacation took a lot out of her. My mom said "too much partying!". That's okay I understand although it still makes me mad, not at her just at the cancer itself. I hate it so much! We used to have so much fun together. I just wish I had my Mom back, and sometimes I feel like I do...on her good days. Yes, I feel selfish and I think that's part of my denial in a way. I can't accept that I won't have my best friend around my whole life. I think part of her is scared to come over because my kids are to exhausting for her because they love her so much. They don't understand why "Buddy" (thats what they call her LOL) isn't goofin' off with them like they used to. My son is extreemly close with her and he understands some what. Anyways thanks for letting me vent.
Melissa
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Melissa you are not alone, I hate cancer with a passion just like you, it is a thief and robs everyone.
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I read this and felt like it was the same thing I am going through. I have the same situation with my Mom, she's dying of cancer and is getting progressivly worse. I don't want her to be sick and don't want to admit that she is dying and I either change the subject or just ignore it, even though lately I have been more open to her telling me what's going on and it really helps to talk about it openly. From what I've found out talking to other people, it's normal to be this way and it's very hard to deal with your Mom that is like a best friend dying. I don't know if this is advice, but just to let you know that I am going through the exact same thing.
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