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| Fri, 05-12-2006 - 8:47pm |
Hi there. My name is Brooke and my FIL just found out that his melanoma is terminal. He is 54 years old and a wonderful man. My husband is a mess and we havent said anything to the kids yet. They are 7 and 4 and love their grandpa very much. I am in shock and denial. I mean, melanoma seems like it should be easy to cure, although I know that is not true. I am a member of the August expecting club and have found wonderful friends and support there and came across this board looking for support, prayers, and maybe a little hope. I want to hold out hope for a miracle, but my husband is very pessimistic. Should I always look for a miracle, or should I just wait for him to die? I am just very new at this....as I have actually never lost anyone close to me. Thank you for listening. I will type more later....I appreciate any prayers in advance.









Hi Brooke,
I am so sorry about your FIL. I am also new to this. My boyfriend's father was diagnosed with colon cancer two months ago. While he has a good chance of beating it, he may actually not make it due to other complications. He's not eating, could be getting pneumonia etc. So while I have been trying to be optomistic and strong for my BF, I just don't know if I can be anymore since his dad isn't making the best decisions for himself. And I don't want to give false hope.
What exactly have the doctors told him? What kind of chances/time frame have they given? Is he going to fight it with treatment or not? I thinkj you can always pray for a miracle, but you may also want to prepare yourself too.
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Hello Brooke. I am going through what you are going through. My mother has had breast cancer for 15 years, and has recently gone way downhill. I often wonder why it had to be now, because I am getting married (will be at the altar in less than 12 hours, in fact.) Just today I heard my mom's nurse saying it would be a matter of weeks. I don't know if my mom will come tomorrow, but, at least there's a chance she'll still be there.
I don't know if I have any advice to you. The only time I have been in a situation like this was when my dad had his second heart surgery 17 years ago. He almost died on the table, and when he was recovering, the docs said he had five years, tops. Well, it's been 17 and he's still around (doing better than mom, taking care of her in fact). If I can say anything, it is to say your "I love yous" now.
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Hi Brooke and welcome to the board.
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