Update on BF's Dad
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| Thu, 05-18-2006 - 3:31pm |
We finally got him to agree to go to the hospital. We were prepared to drive him to the good hospital where his oncological surgeon is. Unfortunately, he was having problems getting into the wheelchair and requested for my boyfriend to call an ambulance. I was downstairs waiting in the car. Had I been there I would have advised differently. I don't think he was aware that they would take him to a hospital he had never been to before.
We were in the ER forever. At first they said they would admit him, but then they said his labs were okay so they would send him home. We all had hissy fits. While his labs may look okay, it doesn't solve the problem of him not being able to keep anything down.
They finally agreed to admit him. If I wasn't so exhausted at that point, I would have put him in my car and taken him to the other hospital. But I don't think any of us were up for another 12 hours in the ER. This hospital is much better than the last one he was in at least. Much friendlier.
The doctors at this hospital seem to suspect that there is somethign wrong with the way the colostomy bag was inserted. Because it hasn't been draining properly and that's why he's been sick. They are going to do surgery on him next week to see what is going on.
So hopefully that will get him fixed up on that end. Unfortunately, this pushes back his surgery to get the tumor out. He was supposed to get a PET scan today and a follow up with the oncoligist next week. So who knows when that will happen. And i'm not so sure that the doctors are all talking to each other.
A social worker at the hospital told us we'll probably have to get him 24 hour nursing care when he goes home. We can't afford that. I don't know what to do. :(

Glad he is in the hospital and at least the doctors at this one are looking him over.
Judy
cl-ivhjude
We actually live in the largest metro area in the US. He just ended up in the crappiest hospital the first time. That hospital may be shut down soon. Everyone who worked there just seemed miserable. Where his oncological surgeon is, is one of the best cancer hospitals in the country, which is why I keep trying to push him to go there. So hopefully, once he is better from this bump in the road, we can get treatment going there again.
We had a rough night at the hospital. His dad was in a lot of pain and being pretty nasty towards my bf when all my bf was trying to do was help. BF was about to snap. Glad he didn't though. It sure can be difficult.
You and your bf have done so much, put so much time, energy and self into this already, while his dad is in the hospital perhaps the two of you can go do something just for yourself.
Judy
cl-ivhjude