Just need support

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Registered: 05-18-2006
Just need support
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 8:03pm
I'm going through a rough time with my Mom, who was diagnosed with a type of colon cancer about a year 1/2 ago. She though she had appendicitis and it turned out cancer. She went through chemo, but it made her so sick, she almost died from it, so she stopped it and refuses any treatments.
6 months after my Mom was diagnosed with cancer, my Dad was diagnosed with brain cancer that was inoperable. He went through the radiation, he couldn't handle the chemo pill. My father passed away January 14 '06. That was really hard, I'm still dealing with that.
Now my Mom is under Hospice care and is at home alone, and I see her often. She will hire a 24 hour nurse if she needs it, but how to tell when that is? I'm very frustrated because I love my Mom so much, she is my best friend! She's on my speed dial #1 and I can't deal with her dying. She's starting to get much weaker and is on oxygen more. I can't type here how it feels, but I'm sure many people know what I'm going through. I'm there for her to help with things, feeding her cat, but I can't take away her cancer and I just don't know how to act around her, because I do get angry that she has cancer and is not doing anything about it, but then I totally understand her side of it and why she is just not doing anything.
It's just very stressful :(

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Sun, 05-21-2006 - 4:23am
I just read about your family dog and I am so sorry you had to put him/her down.

Judy

cl-ivhjude

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 12:24pm

hey florida girl.

I post on here once in a great while.... I saw ur post, and had to reply... i totally understand wut your going through hun... Even though I probably younger then you by alot lol. I lost my mom to lung cancer Christmas Eve 1997, I was only 13 yrs old. Then we had a huge scare with my aunt, and i'm really close to her she had lung cancer twice had 2 surgeries and is now living off half a lung yikes.... So I thought hey why not talk to my doctor about giving my aunt a lung if she ever needed it... Then the doctor says to me well Sara you'd have to go through all these test and meet with a lung transplant specialist to see if ur a match or not so I thought well ok not a problem. Well then she says to me Sara it has to be ok with me too and I wouldnt let you do it because I dont think ur stable enough to make a decision like that cuz you suffer from depression and quit taking ur meds. I was thinking to myself you stupid bleepin bleep so ur saying if she would ever need it and we happen to be a match and u dont think im stable enough to decide on donating or not u'd just let her die wtf!!!!!!!!!!! Of course I didn't say that to her, but needless to say I was thinking it in my head.... I mean I understand depression reall does affect ur descision making skills, but come on now if it were a choice between giving my aunt a lung or letting her chance dying hmmmmmmm lets see thats not a hard decision to make even for someone that is depressed ugh doctors! My aunt has breast cancer too, and i'm pretty worried about that also :(
Feel free to e-mail me netime at babysmile1999@hotmail.com netime so we can offer eachother prayers and support!!!
Hang in there!!!
Sara

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 4:05pm

Sara forgive me for jumping in on your post to another but I had to respond.

Judy

cl-ivhjude

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