He's Not Going to Make It
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| Thu, 06-01-2006 - 8:00am |
My BF's dad had exploratory surgery yesterday to see why he was constantly throwing up. Turns out the cancer had spread to his stomach. They said there is nothing they can do.
So now we have to figure out what to do. We're going to the hospitals today to meet with the social workers. They're mad at us for not contacting them (we tried) and we're mad at them for not contacting us (they have BF's number, what's the holdup). Before the surgery yesterday they had told us we needed to find him a nursing home/rehab. But I guess that has changed now. The surgeon said a nursing home can't give him the care he needs. So today we're going to the hospital to deal with all of the beaurocratic issues when we should really be spending time with his dad. We have to get him to sign power of attorney (I've had the papers there for a while he never wanted to deal with it) to my BF. We're going to get whatever info we can and go to social security in person. Problem is, we don't have any proof of age. He doesn't have a license or birth certificate. So we're trying to figure out a way to get a copy of it as soon as possible. It's such a mess.
We're dealing with so many emotions now. It's no wonder my hair is falling out. :(

Hugs!
Lisa
Oh Rachel I am so sorry to hear this, what a nightmare for you.
Judy
cl-ivhjude
Just you guys being here is help enough. Thank you!
I offer my prayers and hugs. I just lost my mother, so I know some of what you are going through.
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Beth "Petrouchka"
We had a hospice nurse coming in when my mom passed. She only came a few times a week, and the rest of the time, we had a nurse and my dad taking care of her. Hospice may not provide everything, but they were very comforting to us.
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Beth "Petrouchka"
Hugs!
Lisa
Lisa
Already you have some wonderful responses and I agree with them.
Judy
cl-ivhjude
Rachel, I just posted, but I re-read your message and realized some of what you are saying. Hospice will come and take care of someone even if no one is there, but if the person doesn't require round the clock care through hospice, then hospice won't cover it and you are on your own to get someone. I just realized what you meant. That's what I am going through with my Mom. She is too weak to take care of herself, but since she isn't "crisis" like my Dad was, she is only allowed a nurse to check up on her once a week and another nurse was coming to give her a bath 3 times a week, through Hospice. They still will cover the hospital bed and meds, but as far as someone staying with the person all day, that is not covered. I had to hire someone for my Mom, since she and my Dad just retired and never even had a chance to touch their retirement, my Mom has the money to pay for a nurse, but that is coming out of her own pocket, and I'm not sure about how fast medicaid works.
I'm sorry, I tried to help.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all!
I would like to help if you have anymore questions.
Beth