How do I discuss letting go?
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| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 3:03pm |
In my previous post, I talked about how we were trying to get my boyfriend's dad into Hospice.
We had a meeting with all sorts of people from the hospital, and decided on a place. He is now on a waiting list to get there.
At the same time, they all bombarded us trying to get his dad and us to agree to take him off of the fluid IV's. This his basically potasium and maybe some other vitamins to hydrate him. The sound of that terrified us. They said if we continue to hydrate him he would suffer for up to 2 months. We still felt like dehydration sounded like a horrible way to go and may also come to fast before any family can get up here to say their goodbyes.
But since that day I have done research and I see that it isn't so horrible. I hear my boyfriend on the phone with relatives, and he doesn't seem to make his condition sounds as urgent as it is.
His dad's ex-wife and their daughter will be arriving for their goodbyes next weekend (Fathers Day). I'm not even sure he'll make it until then.
The last couple of days it seems as though the morphine is not helping his pain at all. He seems to really be suffering now (more than ever).
I want to have a talk with my boyfriend this weekend about letting him go, and that maybe he should have him taken off the IV's. He'll have to discuss this with his dad of course. But how do I approah this with BF without him thinking I'm trying to kill his dad?

Judy
cl-ivhjude
I'm so sorry it seems he's suffering, that is the worst, I've watched it and I can feel what you are going through. I'm so sorry.
Beth