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| Sun, 06-11-2006 - 10:16am |
My mother-in-law has multiple myeloma. We were dealing well with the diagnose since we believed the chemo was working. She and her dh told us this. However on Friday, we found out differently. She is in the hospital with a mild pneumonia so my dh's brother called. The chemo is not working and she may only have a few months to live. This has hit my dh hard since we live 4 hours away.
I just don't know what to say about it. I am at a lost of words. My dh made the comment that our daughter will never know her grandmother now. I am looking for some suggestions of ways to deal with this since I am very new to this as an adult. Any suggestions would really help.


You and I are pretty much in the same boat, only I already lost my loved one. My mother died May 18th. She had breast cancer for nearly 20 years. What to say? Well, if you are going through hell, keep going (one of my favorite quotes). Grieving is something we all have to do sometime, and sometimes it starts before death. My mother was bedridden for nine months before her death and I knew she could be gone anytime. That was a blessing in a way IMHO, because I was prepared when it happened. I was just grateful for the time we had, and that she lived to see my wedding, five days before her death. Sure, if we have kids she will not know them in a physical way, but I have no doubt she will see them in Heaven and be with them in other ways.
If you and your husband have religious affiliations, let your church help you. If you don't belong but believe in God, now may be a good time to find a church. If you can't turn to religion, try counseling and support groups. Contact your local hospice organization for help with that.
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Beth "Petrouchka"
Hi Krista and welcome, glad to see you although not under these circumstances.
Judy
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Judy
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Thanks for your support.
Judy
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