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| Fri, 07-07-2006 - 10:44pm |
Hello. My husband's Mother was only diagnosed with cancer last month. His family was told today that she may only have days left. It is all so quick it doesn't feel real.
I'm trying my best to be supportive to my husband, listen to him when he needs to talk and just hold him when he can't. Unfortunately the family is becoming literally hostile to each other and that is of course making things all the more difficult. Only my husband and one sister have been always sensitive and careful of how they are around the others, Father and Mother included. I am staying out of 'their circle' out of respect. Tomorrow my husband and his Father are going to make the arrangements with the funeral director,,,my heart is breaking for them. I guess I don't really know how to explain so much in such a short space,,,but I truly fear what is going to happen because of the way some of his siblings are conducting themselves right now. Selfish motives are raising their ugly heads and some dreadful things have been said. I realize everyone deals with tragic situations differently but I thought and so wish they would pull together instead of fighting with each other. What does one say to their husband when he is trying so hard to be strong for his grief-stricken Father and dying Mother while having to deal with the way his siblings are being? I know there is no real answer to my question, except to just be there for him. I just wish I had the words to offer that would alleviate all of his sorrow. Thanks for letting me write here,,,just needed a place to put down some of my thoughts and frustrations. Prayers to all who want or need them,,,,Abby
I'm trying my best to be supportive to my husband, listen to him when he needs to talk and just hold him when he can't. Unfortunately the family is becoming literally hostile to each other and that is of course making things all the more difficult. Only my husband and one sister have been always sensitive and careful of how they are around the others, Father and Mother included. I am staying out of 'their circle' out of respect. Tomorrow my husband and his Father are going to make the arrangements with the funeral director,,,my heart is breaking for them. I guess I don't really know how to explain so much in such a short space,,,but I truly fear what is going to happen because of the way some of his siblings are conducting themselves right now. Selfish motives are raising their ugly heads and some dreadful things have been said. I realize everyone deals with tragic situations differently but I thought and so wish they would pull together instead of fighting with each other. What does one say to their husband when he is trying so hard to be strong for his grief-stricken Father and dying Mother while having to deal with the way his siblings are being? I know there is no real answer to my question, except to just be there for him. I just wish I had the words to offer that would alleviate all of his sorrow. Thanks for letting me write here,,,just needed a place to put down some of my thoughts and frustrations. Prayers to all who want or need them,,,,Abby

Hi Abby, nice to see you again, I'm glad you posted :)
Judy
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Abby I am so sorry for your loss.
Judy
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Abby,
My thoughts are with you and your family. I know this is a tough time and family does tend to get at each others throats. Last summer, my grandmother was murdered, and my mother and her sister were constantly into it with their brother. It's hard but in the end you are all there for each other.
Take care
Cheryl
Judy
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Judy,
Yeah I was able to stay out of most of the arguments. Since, again, I live in CT and they all live in Louisiana. It's been one year and the trial hasn't started yet so my family is still a little on edge. With that and then mom having the cancer, it's a lot to digest.
Family sticks together, I know that sounds cliche'. But my family in Louisiana is there for each other no matter what.
Thanks again and take care Judy
Cheryl
Judy
cl-ivhjude
Hi Cheryl:
So sorry to hear about your grandmother.
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}
Love,
Keleigh
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