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| Thu, 08-31-2006 - 9:55am |
Hi,
I'm new here and am in a situation i'm not sure how to deal with. i know my whole situation is wrong but look past our wrong doings... i met the man of my dreams a year ago the only problem is he is married.. he was making his way out before he met me but i reassured him i didn't want anything to do with him until he was divorced..well some how some way we fell in love and have been seeing eachother for a year now His wife took a new job as a travel nurse (she too knows its over with them) they have 3 kids ages 20,19 and 16 him and his wife agreed that when she left he would stay at the house for 3 months to take car of there daughter till his wife moved to her next station...and me and him had so many big plans and we both were so excited about moving on (she has someone too) anyways she was schedueled to leave this saturday...and yesterday we all got terrible news.. there youngest son (age 19) was diagnosed with leukemia (keep in mind the wife and children HATE me) but my question is what can i do to help? how do i help the man i'm seeing? i know our time togther is going to be far and few between being he NEEDS to be with his son..but what do i say to him? i don't want to say the wrong things..i feel so helpless and confused i love him so much my heart is just breaking and i feel his pain and wish i could comfort him... i just don't know what to do and could just use a freind or some advise...thanks Anastasia
I'm new here and am in a situation i'm not sure how to deal with. i know my whole situation is wrong but look past our wrong doings... i met the man of my dreams a year ago the only problem is he is married.. he was making his way out before he met me but i reassured him i didn't want anything to do with him until he was divorced..well some how some way we fell in love and have been seeing eachother for a year now His wife took a new job as a travel nurse (she too knows its over with them) they have 3 kids ages 20,19 and 16 him and his wife agreed that when she left he would stay at the house for 3 months to take car of there daughter till his wife moved to her next station...and me and him had so many big plans and we both were so excited about moving on (she has someone too) anyways she was schedueled to leave this saturday...and yesterday we all got terrible news.. there youngest son (age 19) was diagnosed with leukemia (keep in mind the wife and children HATE me) but my question is what can i do to help? how do i help the man i'm seeing? i know our time togther is going to be far and few between being he NEEDS to be with his son..but what do i say to him? i don't want to say the wrong things..i feel so helpless and confused i love him so much my heart is just breaking and i feel his pain and wish i could comfort him... i just don't know what to do and could just use a freind or some advise...thanks Anastasia

Hi Anastasia
Oh gosh I am so sorry.
Hi.
I am sorry that you are in pain.
The only advice that I could give, would be to just let him know that you love him and you will be there for him in whatever capacity that he needs you to be. No pressure, just love. :)
As for saying the wrong thing, I really don't think that there are right and wrong things that you can say. He is in his own personal turmoil--he is scared and does not know what tommorrow will bring for his son. I would just let him know that you are there for him.
At a time like this, I believe that just knowing that you are loved and supported can help you through your day. :)
Best of luck and please let us know how everyone is doing.
Elena
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