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| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 2:55pm |
Learning who your friends are...
Anyone who has gone through the pain of loosing someone close to them knows the value and importance of friends and family. I couldn't have survived loosing my wife if it wasn't for the support of my children and everyone around me.
I think one difficult but educational experience was how it showed me who our real friends where. When we made the announcement to our family and friends, everyone was supportive at first, but after some time, some people stood out as wanting to help, and others, well, lets just say they didn't stand out.
One particular incident stood out above all others. One summer all our children had gone on various activities from school band camp to staying with friends out of state. My wife at the time was bed ridden and needed a minimum of a couple hours of care a day. At the time we couldn't afford private care, and it certainly wasn't covered. I would take care of her in the morning, come home at lunch, and then again when I got home from work.
I had to go on a very important business meeting that would take me away for more then 2 days, and I was stuck, so I started calling our 'closest' friends and family. This turned out to be a very painful experience for us, because out of the 10 people I called, it was the last person I expected would help that did. I knew that the excuses that people were coming up with were superficial and it only made them uncomfortable having to deal with my bed ridden wife.
Well, the courageous and wonderful person who helped me that time is still around, and my closest friends now. I owe her my sanity, and my never relenting gratitude for her help all those years!
-JB
Anyone who has gone through the pain of loosing someone close to them knows the value and importance of friends and family. I couldn't have survived loosing my wife if it wasn't for the support of my children and everyone around me.
I think one difficult but educational experience was how it showed me who our real friends where. When we made the announcement to our family and friends, everyone was supportive at first, but after some time, some people stood out as wanting to help, and others, well, lets just say they didn't stand out.
One particular incident stood out above all others. One summer all our children had gone on various activities from school band camp to staying with friends out of state. My wife at the time was bed ridden and needed a minimum of a couple hours of care a day. At the time we couldn't afford private care, and it certainly wasn't covered. I would take care of her in the morning, come home at lunch, and then again when I got home from work.
I had to go on a very important business meeting that would take me away for more then 2 days, and I was stuck, so I started calling our 'closest' friends and family. This turned out to be a very painful experience for us, because out of the 10 people I called, it was the last person I expected would help that did. I knew that the excuses that people were coming up with were superficial and it only made them uncomfortable having to deal with my bed ridden wife.
Well, the courageous and wonderful person who helped me that time is still around, and my closest friends now. I owe her my sanity, and my never relenting gratitude for her help all those years!
-JB

Hi JB and welcome to the board.
Judy
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