My daughter's new Mother-in-law

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My daughter's new Mother-in-law
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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 11:29pm
I don't know where to begin. We are all in shock, especially my Daughter and my new Son-in-law. In May, we got the news that my Daughter's then fiance's Mom had lung cancer, before that she was just having some back trouble, which the Dr.s told her that her back pain was probably arthritis, and then she later told her back was broken, because she fell on the ice in the winter, but in May that all changed, when they told her it was cancer, a tumor was growing there, and broke her back. When they did more tests it was discovered that she had lung cancer, Stage 3. So she bravely did all the chemo and radiation treatments, which made her so sick and weak, she could hardly walk, and was losing her hair, and was throwing up all the time. The cancer was inoperable, because it was attached to her main artery to her heart, so she went through all that, and it did seem to be working, and the cancer seemed to be shrinking, and we were all so relieved and happy that she had a fighting chance, but all that changed in an instant, when her pain returned and the cancer was striking back again, this time,It was STage 4, it was spreading to her liver and other organs, and then again, it was in her bones. There was no stopping it now. My daughter and her fiance planned a May 2007 wedding, but when they learned how sick she was, they decided to change that. It wasn't until we found out that the cancer had spread to her brain, and there was no way that she would live very long, that my daughter and her fiance wanted to give her her wish, to be able to see them get married. So they did just that, they got married in a beautiful ceremony, in the hospital chapel. So they got married in October, and she was so happy that they did that for her. She also wanted to be at their wedding reception which was held 2 weeks later, and the Doctors told us all she would only have about 2 weeks left to live. So she held on and she was there for the wedding reception as well, and saw our kids dancing and having fun at their wedding reception along with all their family and friends. It was a happy time, even though she was in extreme pain. It was important for her to be there to see them. The next day, I went to her home to watch the newlyweds open up their wedding gifts, and she was happy to be a part of that as well, but the next day after that she passed away with her Son and her husband holding her hand. It doesn't seem real that she is really gone. The funeral was yesterday, and I think we all are in shock. Even though we knew she was going to die, it still doesn't seem real, and we all miss her so very much. The Cancer took her from us so quickly. She fought so hard to live, and she just couldn't anymore. I know she is at peace now and that all her pain is gone, but I just feel sad that she won't be there for our kids anymore. She loved her family so much, and she won't get to see her first grandchild be born, and hold him or her and love them, and play with them. My granddaughter loved her very much. She's only 5, and wonders why the angels had to come and take her away from us, and wanted her to be an angel in heaven. She has alot of questions about death and why this happened, and I admit I don't know why either. She was a wonderful, caring Wife, Mother, Sister and Friend, and Grandmother, and it is so sad that she died...
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Sun, 11-12-2006 - 4:01am

I am so glad you stopped in to post and that I am up to see the post.


Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Sun, 11-12-2006 - 11:55pm
I don't believe all this is happening. We all just went through losing my Son-in-laws Mom, a week ago, and now I get the news that my Dad has colon cancer. He's 82 years old, and he's too fragile, to go through any colon operation or chemo or radiation, so I doubt he will be able to fight this horrid disease. I just feel sick. I lost my MOm, in 87. She had cancer too. She told us in April, around Easter time, she had cancer, and then by Mother's Day she was gone. She was taken from us so suddenly. Now I will lose my Dad as well. I do feel angry and upset, that this is happening. I know he is aging very fast. I don't know why this cancer thing has thrown me for a loop, but it has. It scares me to know that my Dad is dying, and I feel like a little kid, scared and alone....
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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 3:43am
I'm so sorry for your loss nitegirl99, there are few words that comfort right now but know that we care and are thinking of and praying for all of you.

Judy

cl-ivhjude

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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 3:57am

Oh no, what a shock this is, does it ever end?

Judy

cl-ivhjude

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 1:25pm
I don't know why all of this is happening, but now yesterday, I got a call that my cousin died suddenly. She is in her 50's. I don't know exactly what happened, but and if she was ill at the time. I knew she had a little bit of emphysema, but it wasn't serious, I don't think, but her husband told her she looked tired and she laid down and she was dead. I just went today to my niece's fiance's funeral. That was so sad. He was only 24, and lying in his casket with his baseball cap on, he looked like a little kid, and I felt so bad for my niece. She has to raise their two little girls on her own now, without their father. I cried alot last nite, because there just seems to be too much loss and pain everywhere. MY daughter and her husband are still in pain over losing her mother-in-law, and I try to help them as much as I can. The only bright spot, is that my daughter-in-law is going to have a baby close to Christmas. That is the bright shining spot that I am so looking forward too. She already knows its a boy. So I am happy to have that blessed event to look forward too... but anyway thanks for listening, and I am happy that you all are there, whenever I need to vent about all this stuff....Thank you and bless all your families, and may they have good health and be safe and loved...
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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 10:16pm

I'm so sorry to hear of even more loss in your life.

Judy

cl-ivhjude

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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 1:54am

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I am truly sorry for all the loss that has happened


to your family.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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