My daughter's new Mother-in-law
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My daughter's new Mother-in-law
| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 11:29pm |
I don't know where to begin. We are all in shock, especially my Daughter and my new Son-in-law. In May, we got the news that my Daughter's then fiance's Mom had lung cancer, before that she was just having some back trouble, which the Dr.s told her that her back pain was probably arthritis, and then she later told her back was broken, because she fell on the ice in the winter, but in May that all changed, when they told her it was cancer, a tumor was growing there, and broke her back. When they did more tests it was discovered that she had lung cancer, Stage 3. So she bravely did all the chemo and radiation treatments, which made her so sick and weak, she could hardly walk, and was losing her hair, and was throwing up all the time. The cancer was inoperable, because it was attached to her main artery to her heart, so she went through all that, and it did seem to be working, and the cancer seemed to be shrinking, and we were all so relieved and happy that she had a fighting chance, but all that changed in an instant, when her pain returned and the cancer was striking back again, this time,It was STage 4, it was spreading to her liver and other organs, and then again, it was in her bones. There was no stopping it now. My daughter and her fiance planned a May 2007 wedding, but when they learned how sick she was, they decided to change that. It wasn't until we found out that the cancer had spread to her brain, and there was no way that she would live very long, that my daughter and her fiance wanted to give her her wish, to be able to see them get married. So they did just that, they got married in a beautiful ceremony, in the hospital chapel. So they got married in October, and she was so happy that they did that for her. She also wanted to be at their wedding reception which was held 2 weeks later, and the Doctors told us all she would only have about 2 weeks left to live. So she held on and she was there for the wedding reception as well, and saw our kids dancing and having fun at their wedding reception along with all their family and friends. It was a happy time, even though she was in extreme pain. It was important for her to be there to see them. The next day, I went to her home to watch the newlyweds open up their wedding gifts, and she was happy to be a part of that as well, but the next day after that she passed away with her Son and her husband holding her hand. It doesn't seem real that she is really gone. The funeral was yesterday, and I think we all are in shock. Even though we knew she was going to die, it still doesn't seem real, and we all miss her so very much. The Cancer took her from us so quickly. She fought so hard to live, and she just couldn't anymore. I know she is at peace now and that all her pain is gone, but I just feel sad that she won't be there for our kids anymore. She loved her family so much, and she won't get to see her first grandchild be born, and hold him or her and love them, and play with them. My granddaughter loved her very much. She's only 5, and wonders why the angels had to come and take her away from us, and wanted her to be an angel in heaven. She has alot of questions about death and why this happened, and I admit I don't know why either. She was a wonderful, caring Wife, Mother, Sister and Friend, and Grandmother, and it is so sad that she died...

I am so glad you stopped in to post and that I am up to see the post.
Judy
cl-ivhjude
Oh no, what a shock this is, does it ever end?
Judy
cl-ivhjude
I'm so sorry to hear of even more loss in your life.
Judy
cl-ivhjude
I am truly sorry for all the loss that has happened
to your family.