My best friend's Dad is dying..need help
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| Tue, 01-02-2007 - 7:26pm |
My best friend's father was recently diagnosed with Liver Cancer (horrible....stage three, he tells me). My friend (we'll call him JP) is a worrier to begin with, so he is not doing well. He has his good moments here and there, but when they're bad, they're very bad.
I lost my brother almost 8 years ago due to a cancerous brain tumor (he was only 15), so I DO understand impending loss and loss itself. I know it's terribly painful and everyone feels lost and out of control. I also know that it must be unbearable to watch a parent become weak and depressed and hopeless. I haven't experienced the impending loss of a parent, so I'm asking if anyone can give me any advice in order to be the least bit helpful to my friend JP.
He and I have been fighting a lot. It usually is in the midst of his telling me about his Dad. I know he's just angry at the world (I definitely know), but he also says things "I can't talk to you...you're not hearing me," or "we're not seeing eye to eye..." and it's become frustrating for me, too. I know, I know, it's not about me, I really do. But I wondered if there's anything I can do. We work together so we see each other all the time.
He comes to me to vent, which I'm 100% ok with...I told him he could. I just don't want to lose him and I want to be able to help him when he's asking for it. Thank you.

Hi
So sorry all of you are going through this.
Judy
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