Confused

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Confused
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Thu, 01-18-2007 - 5:18pm
Hi
I am a Brit based in the US and I just found out that my mum (back in the UK) has been diagnosed with non-hodgkins lymphoma for the second time. The first time it was the slow growing form but this time it seems to be the more rapid type. She has just started her 2nd round of chemo and now has a GI infection so she feeling really low. We are incredably close and talk everyday and I feel terrible being here so far away. My mum and dad have told me under no circumstances am I to come home to see them - I know this sounds odd but my mum says she cannot cope with me returning to the US at the end of my trip right now and I should wait (she finds it hard enough when she is well). I just don't know what to do I desperately want to go home but I don't want to make things worse. Its a nightmare just getting all this second hand information from mum to my father and then to me - its worse because I am an immunologist so hearing half the story with certain words throws me into a panic. I am so worried that something terrible is going to happen and I won't get home in time - international flights and all that. I just don't know what the right thing to do is. Several people I work with, friends etc have been really critical about me not going straight home, although I have tried to explain that this is what my mum asked me to do, and this has made me feel even worse as I have to put up with these comments on top of being absolutely frantic with worry.
Sorry for running on -
A
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: frozen2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 2:05am

Hi


I am so sorry.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: frozen2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:37pm

Frozen welcome to the board :)

Judy

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