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| Fri, 01-19-2007 - 11:52pm |
Hi all
New here, my 36 year old husband was just diagosed with a squamous cell tumor on his cheek bone. They graded it stage 4 due to the fact that it infiltrated under his eye. We are gearing up for surgery next week which involves an aggressive tumor removal that includes his cheek and bone, eye and all its contents, as well as soft palate and all his upper teeth on that side. I think I'm a bit freaked out- trying to remain calm since the long term prognosis is ultimately good. My husband is mostly sleeping and internalizing. I am trying not to coddle or pressure him to talk about the whole thing. We have 4 children ages 16, 14, 11, 7 and I am 3 mos pregnant. The kids are all doing okay and I am trying to project positive juju at home.
I am wondering how I should deal with my husband's unwillingness to open up about the diagnosis and long term facial reconstruction issues without prodding. Should I just let him be and he'll come around? He's not very talkative when it comes to emotional things anyway. I just worry he will hold it all in and that won't be good.
Thanks for listening.
Tammy
New here, my 36 year old husband was just diagosed with a squamous cell tumor on his cheek bone. They graded it stage 4 due to the fact that it infiltrated under his eye. We are gearing up for surgery next week which involves an aggressive tumor removal that includes his cheek and bone, eye and all its contents, as well as soft palate and all his upper teeth on that side. I think I'm a bit freaked out- trying to remain calm since the long term prognosis is ultimately good. My husband is mostly sleeping and internalizing. I am trying not to coddle or pressure him to talk about the whole thing. We have 4 children ages 16, 14, 11, 7 and I am 3 mos pregnant. The kids are all doing okay and I am trying to project positive juju at home.
I am wondering how I should deal with my husband's unwillingness to open up about the diagnosis and long term facial reconstruction issues without prodding. Should I just let him be and he'll come around? He's not very talkative when it comes to emotional things anyway. I just worry he will hold it all in and that won't be good.
Thanks for listening.
Tammy


Sharon
Hi Tammy and welcome to the board, also for some reason your post was not showing up on my screen so forgive me for such a late response.
Your husband has quite a lot to digest, not only the word cancer but the extreme surgery ahead and reconstruction involved.
Judy
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